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<blockquote data-quote="timer lady" data-source="post: 263239" data-attributes="member: 393"><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">Andy, I so agree with Marg. The tweedles have been anxiety ridden since they were placed with us ~ it's tripled (in my humble opinion) since husband died.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">While we treated the anxiety with therapy & medications (as needed) I never fed into their anxieties. I helped them look up information on their greatest fears; we taught self calming, used behavioral modification & tdocs implemented EMDR. </span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">When kt & wm mention a fear I just google it & find the most appropriate response to that fear. It may not work in your difficult children situation but it's sure worth a try.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">I never ever let the tweedles see me sweat ~ never. I responded in a very calm, almost cruel tone of voice to their fears. If I wasn't concerned they shouldn't be concerned. It's a tough act but it helps.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">In the meantime, I'd set up a reward system of sorts for staying in school all day. For overcoming a fear or using self calming to get thru an episode of high anxiety. </span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">You do need a break ~ it's time to do something for you. So do you want to meet midway between the TCs & your area for lunch & coffee one day? I'll be more available with kt in Residential Treatment Center (RTC). </span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">Take care, lady</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="timer lady, post: 263239, member: 393"] [SIZE=3][FONT=Comic Sans MS]Andy, I so agree with Marg. The tweedles have been anxiety ridden since they were placed with us ~ it's tripled (in my humble opinion) since husband died. While we treated the anxiety with therapy & medications (as needed) I never fed into their anxieties. I helped them look up information on their greatest fears; we taught self calming, used behavioral modification & tdocs implemented EMDR. When kt & wm mention a fear I just google it & find the most appropriate response to that fear. It may not work in your difficult children situation but it's sure worth a try. I never ever let the tweedles see me sweat ~ never. I responded in a very calm, almost cruel tone of voice to their fears. If I wasn't concerned they shouldn't be concerned. It's a tough act but it helps. In the meantime, I'd set up a reward system of sorts for staying in school all day. For overcoming a fear or using self calming to get thru an episode of high anxiety. You do need a break ~ it's time to do something for you. So do you want to meet midway between the TCs & your area for lunch & coffee one day? I'll be more available with kt in Residential Treatment Center (RTC). Take care, lady [/FONT][/SIZE] [/QUOTE]
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