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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 189808" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hon, I"m spiritual, but not a member of any organized religion. But I can tell you how I felt about my own daughter after she kept using drugs and wouldn't help herself and the cops kept paying us visits and I felt like the roof was going to collapse on our heads any time. If there was peace at all, we knew it wouldn't last for long. </p><p>She didn't run away and until she was 18 she lived with us. But there were times I both loved and hated her with a passion. There were times she disgusted me with her constant dramas that were all due to her drug abuse. She had so much support and she didn't want it. And sometimes I just wanted her to go away.</p><p>At eighteen, after she had been doing this game with us since age 12 (she used drugs at 12), we finally gave her a choice: Enter a drug rehab and stay clean or leave. She chose to leave. She did not have any real diagnosis. Now that she is cleaned up, both she and I suspect a mood disorder (now that she's clean she won't use any medications though--she is trying naturals). I digress: I felt like you and I don't think God or anyone else expects us to be Saints. We are human. </p><p>If your daughter is willing to cooperate, and it doesn't sound like she is, a new evaluation may tell you more about why she is like she is--ODD rarely stands alone. But with her attitude, it probably won't do any good to evaluate further because it doesn't sound like she wants help. I imagine she is also abusing drugs.</p><p>At any rate you have big hugs from me. And I think your feelings are perfectly normal. You can dislike somebody you love. You can even lose that love for a little while.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 189808, member: 1550"] Hon, I"m spiritual, but not a member of any organized religion. But I can tell you how I felt about my own daughter after she kept using drugs and wouldn't help herself and the cops kept paying us visits and I felt like the roof was going to collapse on our heads any time. If there was peace at all, we knew it wouldn't last for long. She didn't run away and until she was 18 she lived with us. But there were times I both loved and hated her with a passion. There were times she disgusted me with her constant dramas that were all due to her drug abuse. She had so much support and she didn't want it. And sometimes I just wanted her to go away. At eighteen, after she had been doing this game with us since age 12 (she used drugs at 12), we finally gave her a choice: Enter a drug rehab and stay clean or leave. She chose to leave. She did not have any real diagnosis. Now that she is cleaned up, both she and I suspect a mood disorder (now that she's clean she won't use any medications though--she is trying naturals). I digress: I felt like you and I don't think God or anyone else expects us to be Saints. We are human. If your daughter is willing to cooperate, and it doesn't sound like she is, a new evaluation may tell you more about why she is like she is--ODD rarely stands alone. But with her attitude, it probably won't do any good to evaluate further because it doesn't sound like she wants help. I imagine she is also abusing drugs. At any rate you have big hugs from me. And I think your feelings are perfectly normal. You can dislike somebody you love. You can even lose that love for a little while. [/QUOTE]
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