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<blockquote data-quote="mom_in_training" data-source="post: 189815" data-attributes="member: 2727"><p>"and the house where she was, the adult wanted to find out what she needs to do to foster my daughter. She never calld me. However, she was told that she was aiding and abedding a runaway - so somehow, my daughter is no longer there."</p><p></p><p>Another thought, I don't know that I would believe that she is no longer there unless this woman being told that she is aiding and abedding scared the bejebbers out of her. You have to wonder how many other kiddos she has harbored. It surely does not help matters when you have people like that doing what they believe to be rescuing young teens or young adults. If I had ever been put in that position (And have been) I would be tracking down the other parent to give them heads up as to where their kiddo is as well as telling the kid to go back home. If I had to I would also be calling the police to let them know of this runaway. Its crazy we as parents do have a tendency to go into protective mode when a young teen or adult is in trouble and sometimes it is for valid reasons. (There are boundries) I have learned well from my difficult child. She can be very creative in manipulating others into believing that her life here was so bad and abusive in the past and these people actually believed it. Most difficult children are gifted at that. In my opinion its their way of escaping or their way of trying to find justification for their bad choices within themselves (If capable) as well as a way to s--- in other parents to help rescue them. There are also those difficult children that just want to be free of having to live by any rules or morals that their parents have in place. These were all of the reasons why my difficult child hit the road when she did. And of course getting with the wrong crowd did not help either. Its always nice knowing that your difficult child is ok but not when someone is enabling the situation and making it easy for your difficult child.</p><p></p><p>Just recently I have noticed that allot of teens have taken the high road thinking its all good to pick where they live. (Usually a friends house) I wonder why these teens think that they are entitled to do just that. My nephew did the same thing when he was a teen but it was him going back and forth between his Mom and Dads. The Step Mom was having some major issues with him and when I went to go get him she was blaming his Mom for basically everything (Drama). My response was that it was all three of the adults, Not just one because it is these three adults allowing a 13 year old to make adult decisions period. I went on to tell her that you all are just being drug around by the noses by a 13 year old that has the power to decide when and where he wants to live based on his not liking the rules at one house one week then escaping to the other. Geeze now that I think of it, Its kind of like he was thinking that the grass was greener on the other side and visa versa on a weekly basis, Lol!!, How confusing for a 13 year old. But you know he only got away with it because the adults allowed it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mom_in_training, post: 189815, member: 2727"] "and the house where she was, the adult wanted to find out what she needs to do to foster my daughter. She never calld me. However, she was told that she was aiding and abedding a runaway - so somehow, my daughter is no longer there." Another thought, I don't know that I would believe that she is no longer there unless this woman being told that she is aiding and abedding scared the bejebbers out of her. You have to wonder how many other kiddos she has harbored. It surely does not help matters when you have people like that doing what they believe to be rescuing young teens or young adults. If I had ever been put in that position (And have been) I would be tracking down the other parent to give them heads up as to where their kiddo is as well as telling the kid to go back home. If I had to I would also be calling the police to let them know of this runaway. Its crazy we as parents do have a tendency to go into protective mode when a young teen or adult is in trouble and sometimes it is for valid reasons. (There are boundries) I have learned well from my difficult child. She can be very creative in manipulating others into believing that her life here was so bad and abusive in the past and these people actually believed it. Most difficult children are gifted at that. In my opinion its their way of escaping or their way of trying to find justification for their bad choices within themselves (If capable) as well as a way to s--- in other parents to help rescue them. There are also those difficult children that just want to be free of having to live by any rules or morals that their parents have in place. These were all of the reasons why my difficult child hit the road when she did. And of course getting with the wrong crowd did not help either. Its always nice knowing that your difficult child is ok but not when someone is enabling the situation and making it easy for your difficult child. Just recently I have noticed that allot of teens have taken the high road thinking its all good to pick where they live. (Usually a friends house) I wonder why these teens think that they are entitled to do just that. My nephew did the same thing when he was a teen but it was him going back and forth between his Mom and Dads. The Step Mom was having some major issues with him and when I went to go get him she was blaming his Mom for basically everything (Drama). My response was that it was all three of the adults, Not just one because it is these three adults allowing a 13 year old to make adult decisions period. I went on to tell her that you all are just being drug around by the noses by a 13 year old that has the power to decide when and where he wants to live based on his not liking the rules at one house one week then escaping to the other. Geeze now that I think of it, Its kind of like he was thinking that the grass was greener on the other side and visa versa on a weekly basis, Lol!!, How confusing for a 13 year old. But you know he only got away with it because the adults allowed it. [/QUOTE]
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