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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 228086" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>A suggestion - I may be stating the bleedin' obvious, you've probably already thought of this; but she needs to know that if there's something she wants to know, the internet is NOT her first port of call, Mum is. If she wants to know what it's like to kiss a boy, she should ask her mother. SHe should feel free to ask her mother, and not feel embarrassed about it. Because the internet is NOT where she will get the most useful information, where this is concerned.</p><p></p><p>I do agree, you don't just blurt out everything. But as she asks questions (and sit her down and ask her, "What do you want to know? Ask me - if I don't know, let ME find out for you,") then answer them. If she asks, "Where do babies come from?" then you answer THAT question. Don't tell her how they get in there, unless she asks.</p><p></p><p>I grew up on a farm, and despite my being there for most of the births, I still took a long time, much longer than usual, to find out how the babies got in there in the first place. Frankly, I wasn't interested in knowing. The interesting thing for me was the birth and having baby animals around.</p><p></p><p>Every kid is different, but they are all the same when it comes to wanting to find out this sort of thing. The age can vary - I finally learned the facts of life at 14, when a friend of mine, aged 8, told me what she had been told by her newly married cousin. And what SHE had been told was really badly distorted!</p><p></p><p>These days when our children are vulnerable to exploitation, they unfortunately need enough information to keep them safe. We've had to educate them more than we perhaps would have wanted, if only so someone else didn't tell them first, in ways we didn't want to happen.</p><p></p><p>Good luck with the net nanny software, but never trust it. They have it at the local school, and I remember when I was teaching my class after school and some of the boys were showing me what they had downloaded - it was rough! They shouldn't have been able to access it from the school computer, but they had. The teacher never checked, she had too much faith in the "protective software".</p><p>I'm a snitch - I reported it. But I heard tat kids still were easily able to defeat it, and the kids teach each other how to beat the school system, so they can then use the skills at home.</p><p></p><p>The trouble with net nanny software, is it often blocks out useful information too. For example, I hear Yahoo is removing images of women breastfeeding, yet is allowing up some other rather inappropriate stuff. Let's say a kid wants to research works by Michaelangelo - a lot of the images would be bleeped out because they are of naked people. Even on this site, I'm amazed at some of the words censored out, and others allowed through. Sometimes it just doesn't make sense (as in, why is the word for someone who practices politics, bleeped out on this site? But I digress).</p><p></p><p>All I-m saying - encourage her to come to you with questions, by being open about answering what she wants to know. And also keep your eyes open and check. All these things you're probably doing, I just thought I should mention it.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 228086, member: 1991"] A suggestion - I may be stating the bleedin' obvious, you've probably already thought of this; but she needs to know that if there's something she wants to know, the internet is NOT her first port of call, Mum is. If she wants to know what it's like to kiss a boy, she should ask her mother. SHe should feel free to ask her mother, and not feel embarrassed about it. Because the internet is NOT where she will get the most useful information, where this is concerned. I do agree, you don't just blurt out everything. But as she asks questions (and sit her down and ask her, "What do you want to know? Ask me - if I don't know, let ME find out for you,") then answer them. If she asks, "Where do babies come from?" then you answer THAT question. Don't tell her how they get in there, unless she asks. I grew up on a farm, and despite my being there for most of the births, I still took a long time, much longer than usual, to find out how the babies got in there in the first place. Frankly, I wasn't interested in knowing. The interesting thing for me was the birth and having baby animals around. Every kid is different, but they are all the same when it comes to wanting to find out this sort of thing. The age can vary - I finally learned the facts of life at 14, when a friend of mine, aged 8, told me what she had been told by her newly married cousin. And what SHE had been told was really badly distorted! These days when our children are vulnerable to exploitation, they unfortunately need enough information to keep them safe. We've had to educate them more than we perhaps would have wanted, if only so someone else didn't tell them first, in ways we didn't want to happen. Good luck with the net nanny software, but never trust it. They have it at the local school, and I remember when I was teaching my class after school and some of the boys were showing me what they had downloaded - it was rough! They shouldn't have been able to access it from the school computer, but they had. The teacher never checked, she had too much faith in the "protective software". I'm a snitch - I reported it. But I heard tat kids still were easily able to defeat it, and the kids teach each other how to beat the school system, so they can then use the skills at home. The trouble with net nanny software, is it often blocks out useful information too. For example, I hear Yahoo is removing images of women breastfeeding, yet is allowing up some other rather inappropriate stuff. Let's say a kid wants to research works by Michaelangelo - a lot of the images would be bleeped out because they are of naked people. Even on this site, I'm amazed at some of the words censored out, and others allowed through. Sometimes it just doesn't make sense (as in, why is the word for someone who practices politics, bleeped out on this site? But I digress). All I-m saying - encourage her to come to you with questions, by being open about answering what she wants to know. And also keep your eyes open and check. All these things you're probably doing, I just thought I should mention it. Marg [/QUOTE]
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