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I had one of those down moments today
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<blockquote data-quote="Signorina" data-source="post: 554811"><p>Hey Nancy and Kathy...I too totally understand. I give you so much credit Nancy, for actually following thru and dropping off the shampooer. </p><p></p><p>I know just what you mean about struggling to understand why your child is living THERE. My son too. I just don't get it. My husband grew up hand to mouth, living in increasingly better or worse rentals depending on how his mom was doing "that year." I can't count how many times we would be driving in an unfamiliar area (to me) on our way to or from somewhere, and H would point out a random apartment building and say "I used to live there." He wanted so much more for his kids and has worked so hard to make sure they live a better life.</p><p></p><p>I suppose it must seem like a grand adventure to our difficult children and it's another part of OUR lives they can turn their back upon. I know that my kid finds some sort of reverse snobbery in "doing it on his own". His apartment was so disgusting - between the two dirty roommates and the slum landlord. Simply gross.</p><p></p><p>As far as plans falling though, I've learned to lower my expectations tremendously. I got my hopes up too many times, only to be blown off or disappointed. And I have also learned to stop putting myself out there. Because I think I was teaching him that he CAN take me for granted. </p><p></p><p>I could really use an instruction manual for these kids.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Signorina, post: 554811"] Hey Nancy and Kathy...I too totally understand. I give you so much credit Nancy, for actually following thru and dropping off the shampooer. I know just what you mean about struggling to understand why your child is living THERE. My son too. I just don't get it. My husband grew up hand to mouth, living in increasingly better or worse rentals depending on how his mom was doing "that year." I can't count how many times we would be driving in an unfamiliar area (to me) on our way to or from somewhere, and H would point out a random apartment building and say "I used to live there." He wanted so much more for his kids and has worked so hard to make sure they live a better life. I suppose it must seem like a grand adventure to our difficult children and it's another part of OUR lives they can turn their back upon. I know that my kid finds some sort of reverse snobbery in "doing it on his own". His apartment was so disgusting - between the two dirty roommates and the slum landlord. Simply gross. As far as plans falling though, I've learned to lower my expectations tremendously. I got my hopes up too many times, only to be blown off or disappointed. And I have also learned to stop putting myself out there. Because I think I was teaching him that he CAN take me for granted. I could really use an instruction manual for these kids. [/QUOTE]
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