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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 147971" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Just a thought - I'm putting myself in this other kid's household for a minute. The kid is calling you guys A LOT. Maybe while making his call to you (before the police showed up at your place to talk to difficult child) the other boy's father walked into the room and said something like, "You're on the phone AGAIN? How many times do I have to keep telling you? Phone calls cost money! And you've got chores to do/bath to have/homework. Hang that up NOW!"</p><p></p><p>Maybe there is nothing freakier than that, in the father. He would only have known what the kid was telling him, maybe not believing the kid when he said, "It's not my friend, it's his mother and she wants our phone number." Or maybe the kid didn't even say that much. He may have just said, "Can I give them our phone number and address?"</p><p>If the father believed the kid was only talking to difficult child, plus was annoyed at the over-use of HIS phone, he could well have just responded with, "I said hang up NOW!"</p><p></p><p>I know it's how husband might react. Or might have reacted, before we started using "Explosive Child" methods.</p><p></p><p>In a family situation where the father is a controlling tyrant who is suspicious about sharing contact details with strangers, the wife would generally not have been so open and understanding; she would be very much under his thumb (or his authority would be getting constantly undermined). I suspect this is perhaps a misunderstanding, aggravated by their son's inappropriate phone use. It's probably not just your son he rings a lot, he probably does this with all his friends and maybe goes through friends because of it. Maybe his father has been trying to curb his over-use of the phone for some time.</p><p></p><p>As for kids sharing their contact details - it took ages for both my boys to think to ask their friends for phone numbers and addresses. difficult child 3 especially, would want to invite classmates to his birthday party, but since his birthday is ALWAYS right before a new school year, he could never hand out invitations at school, we had to have those addresses. And difficult child 3 would never think to ask. He didn't see a reason to, at the end of the previous school year. And after that - it was too late, his birthday would come and go in the summer holidays and again we would have to skip a birthday party with classmates, because he had no way of contacting them.</p><p>I kept asking him, "Get your classmates' addresses and/or phone numbers," but he could never see any reason to so he kept forgetting. Hence - he's never had a birthday party, other than just family. </p><p></p><p>I hope you can make some sort of positive contact with this family. Hopefully this other boy is just an inappropriate difficult child, rather than a serious problem. I have found that my sons attract friends with similar issues, and they are very close friendships indeed. difficult child 1's closest Aspie friend through high school, a boy who some teachers at the school considered to be dangerous and scary (he's not, in my opinion), has been an amazingly loyal and law-abiding friend. difficult child 1 wants this friend as Best Man when he marries in November.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 147971, member: 1991"] Just a thought - I'm putting myself in this other kid's household for a minute. The kid is calling you guys A LOT. Maybe while making his call to you (before the police showed up at your place to talk to difficult child) the other boy's father walked into the room and said something like, "You're on the phone AGAIN? How many times do I have to keep telling you? Phone calls cost money! And you've got chores to do/bath to have/homework. Hang that up NOW!" Maybe there is nothing freakier than that, in the father. He would only have known what the kid was telling him, maybe not believing the kid when he said, "It's not my friend, it's his mother and she wants our phone number." Or maybe the kid didn't even say that much. He may have just said, "Can I give them our phone number and address?" If the father believed the kid was only talking to difficult child, plus was annoyed at the over-use of HIS phone, he could well have just responded with, "I said hang up NOW!" I know it's how husband might react. Or might have reacted, before we started using "Explosive Child" methods. In a family situation where the father is a controlling tyrant who is suspicious about sharing contact details with strangers, the wife would generally not have been so open and understanding; she would be very much under his thumb (or his authority would be getting constantly undermined). I suspect this is perhaps a misunderstanding, aggravated by their son's inappropriate phone use. It's probably not just your son he rings a lot, he probably does this with all his friends and maybe goes through friends because of it. Maybe his father has been trying to curb his over-use of the phone for some time. As for kids sharing their contact details - it took ages for both my boys to think to ask their friends for phone numbers and addresses. difficult child 3 especially, would want to invite classmates to his birthday party, but since his birthday is ALWAYS right before a new school year, he could never hand out invitations at school, we had to have those addresses. And difficult child 3 would never think to ask. He didn't see a reason to, at the end of the previous school year. And after that - it was too late, his birthday would come and go in the summer holidays and again we would have to skip a birthday party with classmates, because he had no way of contacting them. I kept asking him, "Get your classmates' addresses and/or phone numbers," but he could never see any reason to so he kept forgetting. Hence - he's never had a birthday party, other than just family. I hope you can make some sort of positive contact with this family. Hopefully this other boy is just an inappropriate difficult child, rather than a serious problem. I have found that my sons attract friends with similar issues, and they are very close friendships indeed. difficult child 1's closest Aspie friend through high school, a boy who some teachers at the school considered to be dangerous and scary (he's not, in my opinion), has been an amazingly loyal and law-abiding friend. difficult child 1 wants this friend as Best Man when he marries in November. Marg [/QUOTE]
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