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I hate to whine and vent but I dont have anyone else
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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 476623" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>(((hugs)))</p><p></p><p>I totally get your frustration. Totally.</p><p></p><p>You love Tony and he loves you. Problem is, you've been together so long. I know that sounds silly but it's true. I know because that's the way husband and I were the past couple of years, not all the time, but much of it. Mostly it's because he took me for granted and I was tired of it, especially when a lot of stuff I couldn't do anymore for various reasons. What I didn't realize is I was taking him for granted too, in the areas he <strong>did</strong> help...........which were much more than I realized until he was gone. No, he didn't do a lot of the things that I wanted him to do, but he still did a lot more than I gave him credit for or properly appreciated him for. It goes both ways with you've been with someone most of your life. You don't even think about it.</p><p></p><p>If he wants company for thanksgiving, see if you can get that reasonable maid to come back out and help. I'm sure she could use the money for the holidays. Use this as an excuse for extra help with the house, both the maid and others helping out. If Tony gets mad, and he probably will, remind him it's gotta be done or his family is going to see his home the way it is when you get no help at all. He may grumble, but he'll probably be like my husband and pitch in as well as zip his lip over the maid. And it might help you to be able to keep the maid after the dinner is over too cuz he'll like that things are cleaned up finally.</p><p></p><p>You need the help. He's given you a good excuse to hire and recruit it. </p><p></p><p>But like I said, I soooooo totally get it.</p><p></p><p>(((hugs)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 476623, member: 84"] (((hugs))) I totally get your frustration. Totally. You love Tony and he loves you. Problem is, you've been together so long. I know that sounds silly but it's true. I know because that's the way husband and I were the past couple of years, not all the time, but much of it. Mostly it's because he took me for granted and I was tired of it, especially when a lot of stuff I couldn't do anymore for various reasons. What I didn't realize is I was taking him for granted too, in the areas he [B]did[/B] help...........which were much more than I realized until he was gone. No, he didn't do a lot of the things that I wanted him to do, but he still did a lot more than I gave him credit for or properly appreciated him for. It goes both ways with you've been with someone most of your life. You don't even think about it. If he wants company for thanksgiving, see if you can get that reasonable maid to come back out and help. I'm sure she could use the money for the holidays. Use this as an excuse for extra help with the house, both the maid and others helping out. If Tony gets mad, and he probably will, remind him it's gotta be done or his family is going to see his home the way it is when you get no help at all. He may grumble, but he'll probably be like my husband and pitch in as well as zip his lip over the maid. And it might help you to be able to keep the maid after the dinner is over too cuz he'll like that things are cleaned up finally. You need the help. He's given you a good excuse to hire and recruit it. But like I said, I soooooo totally get it. (((hugs))) [/QUOTE]
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