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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 193174" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>I really understand his point of view. I really and truly get upset if you tell me you are going to call or come over and don't. I don't care if you're my friend, daughter, mother, lover. If you say you're going to do it, do it! If you can't do it, then make the time to tell me that. Don't. keep. me. hanging.</p><p> </p><p>Honestly, he's handling it better than I would. I would have told you it's been swell (and my gut feeling is this isn't the first time he's been shoved to the side and kept waiting for something). If I loved you, I probably would have avoided the phone for the simple reason it would have gotten ugly had I spoken to you. I would not have done it to punish you but to protect you from my anger.</p><p> </p><p>I know you've said you're sorry and it does sound like he will get over it. The reality is that sorry doesn't make the hurt go away, it acknowledges the other person was hurt and that you cared enough to feel bad about hurting the person. He knows you didn't do it on purpose but he's hurt. He probably could have accepted you saying you were tired, you needed to study, you really couldn't make it today. But you didn't do that. You kept saying you were coming. He had the joy of sitting and waiting for you and not doing something else.</p><p> </p><p>If he's like me, he'll hash the day over in his mind and get over it because he cares about you. He may even apologize for not answering your calls and leavng you hanging. What you do about that is up to you. Personally, I'd let it go after letting him know how that made you feel. Yes, his pouting was wrong and childish but he did have a right to be angry and upset.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 193174, member: 3626"] I really understand his point of view. I really and truly get upset if you tell me you are going to call or come over and don't. I don't care if you're my friend, daughter, mother, lover. If you say you're going to do it, do it! If you can't do it, then make the time to tell me that. Don't. keep. me. hanging. Honestly, he's handling it better than I would. I would have told you it's been swell (and my gut feeling is this isn't the first time he's been shoved to the side and kept waiting for something). If I loved you, I probably would have avoided the phone for the simple reason it would have gotten ugly had I spoken to you. I would not have done it to punish you but to protect you from my anger. I know you've said you're sorry and it does sound like he will get over it. The reality is that sorry doesn't make the hurt go away, it acknowledges the other person was hurt and that you cared enough to feel bad about hurting the person. He knows you didn't do it on purpose but he's hurt. He probably could have accepted you saying you were tired, you needed to study, you really couldn't make it today. But you didn't do that. You kept saying you were coming. He had the joy of sitting and waiting for you and not doing something else. If he's like me, he'll hash the day over in his mind and get over it because he cares about you. He may even apologize for not answering your calls and leavng you hanging. What you do about that is up to you. Personally, I'd let it go after letting him know how that made you feel. Yes, his pouting was wrong and childish but he did have a right to be angry and upset. [/QUOTE]
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