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<blockquote data-quote="Arielle" data-source="post: 136460" data-attributes="member: 4621"><p>Thank you so very much everyone from the bottom of my heart for your replies and support. It means a lot to have someone to come to for support that has an idea of what I am going through by your own daily experiences.</p><p> </p><p>I wish husband would open his eyes. The psychologist daughter is seeing has also seen us as a couple and individually to discuss our daughter without daughter being present. I feel better when I leave the psychologist's office because she validates what I am feeling as well as her opinion of how daughter is behaving. She has told husband to discipline daughter more than he has up until now and to try to stand by me and be on the same page where our daughter is concerned. He always says he would, but after we leave the psychologists office, I haven't really seen any changes.</p><p> </p><p>It really gets my goat when I call husband up at work and complain about daughter's behavior toward me while doing homework -- not sitting in her seat when expected to; getting up to get something to eat and drink; bathroom runs; playing with her little brother; going out on her scooter without permission; wanting to go to the park or watch tv; tells me that she does not have to listen to me and likes getting on my nerves, etc.; hits me or uses vulgarity and is disrespectful to me and tells me that I am not her boss and I don't tell her what to do. His stupid response has been why doesn't she do things with him? Well, hello, my response was "YOU NEVER DO HOMEWORK with her. You never request anything of her that she does not want to do, so there is no meltdown with you that at I see when we are together. I do not see what happens when you are alone with her." </p><p> </p><p>Yesterday, I asked her to do her homework and then afterwards we would go to the park for a short while because if was cold out. She wouldn't comply and do her homework and kicked me and hit me in the ribs. I called husband up to tell him, and he said "What is it this time?" This is truly unbelievable. My Mother wonders why I even bother calling him at all. He does not reprimand her or scold her. daughter knows she won't get punished by husband and takes advantage of that.</p><p> </p><p>(husband had a very tiny glimpse of daughter's behavior yesterday morning. I told him since she did not do her math homework, that I refused to do it for her and he would have to sit with her in the morning to do it. Well, she wasted time, was yawning and staring into space and not listening to what he was saying. He was getting angry with her. He did not give me the satisfaction of telling me that he now has somewhat of an idea of what I go through on a daily basis. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/2012/furious.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":furious:" title="furious :furious:" data-shortname=":furious:" /> Anyway, I did get enjoyment from listening in from the next room.)</p><p> </p><p>We are getting an honor's student from a high school to come to homework with her 2-3 times a week as her schedule permits. That will at least put some aggravation off of me, I hope. I am just worried that daughter will get used to the tutor and do to her what she does to me. </p><p> </p><p>In any event, I am glad that we will be going to see the Child Psychiatrist for a consult and evaluation this weekend. Hopefully, she will open husband's eyes, ears and mind.</p><p> </p><p>We also have the gasterenterologist appointment. on Tuesday. </p><p> </p><p>I will update when I know more.</p><p> </p><p>THanks everyone again for your support. It means alot.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Arielle, post: 136460, member: 4621"] Thank you so very much everyone from the bottom of my heart for your replies and support. It means a lot to have someone to come to for support that has an idea of what I am going through by your own daily experiences. I wish husband would open his eyes. The psychologist daughter is seeing has also seen us as a couple and individually to discuss our daughter without daughter being present. I feel better when I leave the psychologist's office because she validates what I am feeling as well as her opinion of how daughter is behaving. She has told husband to discipline daughter more than he has up until now and to try to stand by me and be on the same page where our daughter is concerned. He always says he would, but after we leave the psychologists office, I haven't really seen any changes. It really gets my goat when I call husband up at work and complain about daughter's behavior toward me while doing homework -- not sitting in her seat when expected to; getting up to get something to eat and drink; bathroom runs; playing with her little brother; going out on her scooter without permission; wanting to go to the park or watch tv; tells me that she does not have to listen to me and likes getting on my nerves, etc.; hits me or uses vulgarity and is disrespectful to me and tells me that I am not her boss and I don't tell her what to do. His stupid response has been why doesn't she do things with him? Well, hello, my response was "YOU NEVER DO HOMEWORK with her. You never request anything of her that she does not want to do, so there is no meltdown with you that at I see when we are together. I do not see what happens when you are alone with her." Yesterday, I asked her to do her homework and then afterwards we would go to the park for a short while because if was cold out. She wouldn't comply and do her homework and kicked me and hit me in the ribs. I called husband up to tell him, and he said "What is it this time?" This is truly unbelievable. My Mother wonders why I even bother calling him at all. He does not reprimand her or scold her. daughter knows she won't get punished by husband and takes advantage of that. (husband had a very tiny glimpse of daughter's behavior yesterday morning. I told him since she did not do her math homework, that I refused to do it for her and he would have to sit with her in the morning to do it. Well, she wasted time, was yawning and staring into space and not listening to what he was saying. He was getting angry with her. He did not give me the satisfaction of telling me that he now has somewhat of an idea of what I go through on a daily basis. :furious: Anyway, I did get enjoyment from listening in from the next room.) We are getting an honor's student from a high school to come to homework with her 2-3 times a week as her schedule permits. That will at least put some aggravation off of me, I hope. I am just worried that daughter will get used to the tutor and do to her what she does to me. In any event, I am glad that we will be going to see the Child Psychiatrist for a consult and evaluation this weekend. Hopefully, she will open husband's eyes, ears and mind. We also have the gasterenterologist appointment. on Tuesday. I will update when I know more. THanks everyone again for your support. It means alot. [/QUOTE]
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