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I have elected to tell my son to get treatment and be sober before we talk again.
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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 590966" data-attributes="member: 15801"><p>I have not actually been afraid of my son but the thought has definitely crossed my mind. When we initially kicked my son out it was after I told him he had 2 weeks to start following the rules. At that point he threatened to bash my teeth in! I knew he wouldn't do it as long as I did not go head to head with him, but if I had h would probably have hurt me. Instead I went off and cried and then went to the police and had them come and no trespass him from the house. </p><p></p><p>So I agree pay attention but don't panic. I think the fact that your son is saying you ar abandoning him and his problems is actually a good sign! It means he cares and that is good. I definitely do not think you should respond while he is being vile and verbally abusive. But at some point asking him about both feeling abandoned and what he sees as his problems could be helpful. I think dealing with substance abuse issues is way more than to stop using but to deal with the underlying problems...so the fact he admits having those open an important door. Now being vile and blaming you for everything isn't useful but it does sound like there is a door opening a crack.</p><p></p><p>TL</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 590966, member: 15801"] I have not actually been afraid of my son but the thought has definitely crossed my mind. When we initially kicked my son out it was after I told him he had 2 weeks to start following the rules. At that point he threatened to bash my teeth in! I knew he wouldn't do it as long as I did not go head to head with him, but if I had h would probably have hurt me. Instead I went off and cried and then went to the police and had them come and no trespass him from the house. So I agree pay attention but don't panic. I think the fact that your son is saying you ar abandoning him and his problems is actually a good sign! It means he cares and that is good. I definitely do not think you should respond while he is being vile and verbally abusive. But at some point asking him about both feeling abandoned and what he sees as his problems could be helpful. I think dealing with substance abuse issues is way more than to stop using but to deal with the underlying problems...so the fact he admits having those open an important door. Now being vile and blaming you for everything isn't useful but it does sound like there is a door opening a crack. TL [/QUOTE]
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