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I have elected to tell my son to get treatment and be sober before we talk again.
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<blockquote data-quote="kennedyland" data-source="post: 592802" data-attributes="member: 16133"><p>An important lesson. For all of its discipline, bravery, and drawing-a-line-in-the-sand qualities that my choice not to talk with my 28 year old son until he gets treatment, it doesn't work if only one individual takes that route. Since along with my wife (his stepmother) I was the only one electing not to talk with my son, it has accomplished little to nothing. With his mother (my ex) and his sister (my daughter) continuing to enable him, it has fallen through. I'm certain something like that can work, however it must be a group effort. Without everyone on the same page, it only creates more mud on the road. I had a good conversation with my daughter this evening and she made some excellent points. I can't "win" and he has simply continued down his path. I will call my son tomorrow and end this silence. I'm going to set some boundaries, and learn to live my own life with him doing what he feels he needs to do with his life. Again, one person taking a stand while the rest of the community, or in my case, family does not go along with that decision is ineffective. Lesson learned -before you take radical action, make sure your not the only one standing in the field when the shots are fired.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="kennedyland, post: 592802, member: 16133"] An important lesson. For all of its discipline, bravery, and drawing-a-line-in-the-sand qualities that my choice not to talk with my 28 year old son until he gets treatment, it doesn't work if only one individual takes that route. Since along with my wife (his stepmother) I was the only one electing not to talk with my son, it has accomplished little to nothing. With his mother (my ex) and his sister (my daughter) continuing to enable him, it has fallen through. I'm certain something like that can work, however it must be a group effort. Without everyone on the same page, it only creates more mud on the road. I had a good conversation with my daughter this evening and she made some excellent points. I can't "win" and he has simply continued down his path. I will call my son tomorrow and end this silence. I'm going to set some boundaries, and learn to live my own life with him doing what he feels he needs to do with his life. Again, one person taking a stand while the rest of the community, or in my case, family does not go along with that decision is ineffective. Lesson learned -before you take radical action, make sure your not the only one standing in the field when the shots are fired. [/QUOTE]
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