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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 179586" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hi, hon. From my experience, people expect too much from medications. As somebody who needs to be on medications myself, I can tell you that while they can help, it can take YEARS to get both the medications AND the diagnosis right. Your little one is so young that there is no way to really know if he's even getting medicated for the right things. No, this isn't good news, but I lived through ten years of trials of medication myself (and several wrong diagnosis). My son also did. This is not an exact science. Nor do I believe your son WANTS to misbehave. I believe he is out of control and ill, with either a brain disorder or a neurological disorder or both. I don't know if a hospital will help. You don't either. You can try it. I'd be more apt to do what worked best for me and my son--try to get in to see a neuropsychologist. They are the ones who take the best, most accurate guesses at what is wrong primarily because they really test intensively. </p><p>I hope you can keep your job. It is very hard to work when you have a child who acts out. I think the best way you can prepare for him NOT to be kicked out of camp or school is to get him into special education until he is diagnosed correctly and/or stabilized. Special Education programs make allowances for behaviors that regular school rooms and classes won't. If he is so out of control, perhaps he can get an aide. They can be very helpful. You may want to post on Special Education 101. There are camps as well as summer school for atypical children who need additional care. He does not seem able to function at camp. He knows the rules--like you said, you tell him every day. He just CAN'T follow them, for whatever reason. He needs somebody shadowing him until you can get him evaluated and helped more than he has been. My opinion about a teen babysitter or even an adult who doesn't understand "acting out" kids is NO. Not only will the poor caregiver not have a clue and probably quit fast, but she could think you are abusing the child and may report you. On the flip side, we never really know our sitters. The sitter could lose it and abuse him. He really needs a person who understands him. I babysat for a kid who had an "ADHD" diagonosis (but, if it was ADHD, it was the worst case of ADHD I've ever seen). He could get very violent, no matter how gentle and calm I was with him and finally even me, Warrior mom, gave up. I couldn't do it. I was way over my head with him, and I am an experienced mom with an Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) child. Anyone on the teen sitter this is JMO.</p><p> I also personally am not on board with a Psychiatrist only. I like the neuropsychologist in there too. They tend to pick up things Psychiatrists miss. Good luck.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 179586, member: 1550"] Hi, hon. From my experience, people expect too much from medications. As somebody who needs to be on medications myself, I can tell you that while they can help, it can take YEARS to get both the medications AND the diagnosis right. Your little one is so young that there is no way to really know if he's even getting medicated for the right things. No, this isn't good news, but I lived through ten years of trials of medication myself (and several wrong diagnosis). My son also did. This is not an exact science. Nor do I believe your son WANTS to misbehave. I believe he is out of control and ill, with either a brain disorder or a neurological disorder or both. I don't know if a hospital will help. You don't either. You can try it. I'd be more apt to do what worked best for me and my son--try to get in to see a neuropsychologist. They are the ones who take the best, most accurate guesses at what is wrong primarily because they really test intensively. I hope you can keep your job. It is very hard to work when you have a child who acts out. I think the best way you can prepare for him NOT to be kicked out of camp or school is to get him into special education until he is diagnosed correctly and/or stabilized. Special Education programs make allowances for behaviors that regular school rooms and classes won't. If he is so out of control, perhaps he can get an aide. They can be very helpful. You may want to post on Special Education 101. There are camps as well as summer school for atypical children who need additional care. He does not seem able to function at camp. He knows the rules--like you said, you tell him every day. He just CAN'T follow them, for whatever reason. He needs somebody shadowing him until you can get him evaluated and helped more than he has been. My opinion about a teen babysitter or even an adult who doesn't understand "acting out" kids is NO. Not only will the poor caregiver not have a clue and probably quit fast, but she could think you are abusing the child and may report you. On the flip side, we never really know our sitters. The sitter could lose it and abuse him. He really needs a person who understands him. I babysat for a kid who had an "ADHD" diagonosis (but, if it was ADHD, it was the worst case of ADHD I've ever seen). He could get very violent, no matter how gentle and calm I was with him and finally even me, Warrior mom, gave up. I couldn't do it. I was way over my head with him, and I am an experienced mom with an Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) child. Anyone on the teen sitter this is JMO. I also personally am not on board with a Psychiatrist only. I like the neuropsychologist in there too. They tend to pick up things Psychiatrists miss. Good luck. [/QUOTE]
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