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I have my first counseling appointment tonight~
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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 254009" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">Thank you for all the encouragement. </span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">First, I just want to say that I REALLY REALLY like my counselor. HOWEVER (you knew there was going to be a 'however', didn't you?), she said, often, "Oh, I can relate to that" and "I've been through that myself", which is the only area where I had a doubt as to whether or not she is the right person. While on the one hand it was great to be validated and understood to such a degree...on the other hand, I worry that her outlook and suggestions may be jaded, know what I mean? I have scheduled another appointment with her for when I return from Cali so we will see how it goes. We got along very well and I felt completely comfortable, although for me that isn't so unusual when I am in a counselor's office - in my opinion, I feel it's an 'anything goes' opportunity so I just let her rip. It was good to get it all out and I was able to give her a very abbreviated synapsis of my life these past few years, which I think left her a little shocked, however temporarily. She was very concerned about difficult child. In the end, she asked me what I wanted to get out of the counseling, which was a great sign (as I do not want to waste my time just venting) and I responded by telling her that I need to change my focus after years of taking care of everyone and everything - it's time for me to take care of me and my needs first. I told her I need accountability in this regard - someone to help me stay on track with taking care of myself. And lastly, to figure out what I want to do now that I'm all grown up - lol. She said, "Perfect, that's what I was hoping you were going to say". Nice, huh? Anyway, I look forward to seeing her again. </span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">Should I be concerned about how much she could relate and how she has been through this herself or hope that her experience will help me find clarity? *Her exh was a porn addict and she eventually went on to kick him out - that's the short of it. </span></span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 254009, member: 2211"] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]Thank you for all the encouragement. [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][SIZE=3][COLOR=#483d8b][/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]First, I just want to say that I REALLY REALLY like my counselor. HOWEVER (you knew there was going to be a 'however', didn't you?), she said, often, "Oh, I can relate to that" and "I've been through that myself", which is the only area where I had a doubt as to whether or not she is the right person. While on the one hand it was great to be validated and understood to such a degree...on the other hand, I worry that her outlook and suggestions may be jaded, know what I mean? I have scheduled another appointment with her for when I return from Cali so we will see how it goes. We got along very well and I felt completely comfortable, although for me that isn't so unusual when I am in a counselor's office - in my opinion, I feel it's an 'anything goes' opportunity so I just let her rip. It was good to get it all out and I was able to give her a very abbreviated synapsis of my life these past few years, which I think left her a little shocked, however temporarily. She was very concerned about difficult child. In the end, she asked me what I wanted to get out of the counseling, which was a great sign (as I do not want to waste my time just venting) and I responded by telling her that I need to change my focus after years of taking care of everyone and everything - it's time for me to take care of me and my needs first. I told her I need accountability in this regard - someone to help me stay on track with taking care of myself. And lastly, to figure out what I want to do now that I'm all grown up - lol. She said, "Perfect, that's what I was hoping you were going to say". Nice, huh? Anyway, I look forward to seeing her again. [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue][/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]Should I be concerned about how much she could relate and how she has been through this herself or hope that her experience will help me find clarity? *Her exh was a porn addict and she eventually went on to kick him out - that's the short of it. [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [/QUOTE]
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