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I have my first counseling appointment tonight~
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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 254012" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>I think that like any other human being - we tend to think -I am paying you to help me so you should know WAY more than I do about EvERYTHING and EVERY situation. </p><p> </p><p>Give it some time. I too, have great report with our therapist. When I finally got to my own counseling without difficult child or other influences and began working on ME - my therapist said similar things - "I can relate, I know what you mean." and I too thought - HOW IN THE HECK do you - realte to anything I'm saying? Then inserted my own mini-vent - like - Were you adopted, did you live in foster care? Do you have baggage? Were you tortured? And eventually it occured to me that the man was -just a man. Not a knowing all God who should know me instantly. </p><p> </p><p>I think at this point? She's just tyring to use her bag of expertise and knowledge to feel you out and see what works with you so that you can work with her. I flat-out asked my therapist this one day - and in essence this was the reply I rec'd. So give it a little time and if after a few sessions she keeps up with the "I know, I've been there" thing? Just stop talking and say REALLY? Do you know what it's like to ---and then fill in your stuff and tell her - I'm not sure you do know what it's like because we're all so very different. </p><p> </p><p>And I had to laugh at your statement about not using the session for a 50 minute vent......OMG I did.....for like 4 months - every appointment. I just let her rip - and eventually I got tired of hearing myself whine - and him say I know - so I asked him the REALLY? thing and he came back with the explaination - and when I got tired of venting and got it ALL out of my system? I started working on core issues. </p><p> </p><p>When we got done and I got done and therapist felt we had enough skills to help our own selves and he said he felt I no longer needed therapy (OMG was that a shock) I felt like - YEAH - I'm healed.....and still today I find situations where I think - I should call him and set an appointment. to talk about this because I'm just not sure. </p><p> </p><p>And I think it's a good safety net to have, and I've done years of therapy also - but my brain can only concentrate on so many areas of me at a time - so it's bound to happen that I need a refresher now and then so that when I question my decisions and choices - I know I'm not making the same mistakes again that landed me in therapy in the first place. </p><p> </p><p>......well it was either that or a 9 year tequila bender. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/faint.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":faint:" title="faint :faint:" data-shortname=":faint:" />- I like my liver so I went to therapy.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 254012, member: 4964"] I think that like any other human being - we tend to think -I am paying you to help me so you should know WAY more than I do about EvERYTHING and EVERY situation. Give it some time. I too, have great report with our therapist. When I finally got to my own counseling without difficult child or other influences and began working on ME - my therapist said similar things - "I can relate, I know what you mean." and I too thought - HOW IN THE HECK do you - realte to anything I'm saying? Then inserted my own mini-vent - like - Were you adopted, did you live in foster care? Do you have baggage? Were you tortured? And eventually it occured to me that the man was -just a man. Not a knowing all God who should know me instantly. I think at this point? She's just tyring to use her bag of expertise and knowledge to feel you out and see what works with you so that you can work with her. I flat-out asked my therapist this one day - and in essence this was the reply I rec'd. So give it a little time and if after a few sessions she keeps up with the "I know, I've been there" thing? Just stop talking and say REALLY? Do you know what it's like to ---and then fill in your stuff and tell her - I'm not sure you do know what it's like because we're all so very different. And I had to laugh at your statement about not using the session for a 50 minute vent......OMG I did.....for like 4 months - every appointment. I just let her rip - and eventually I got tired of hearing myself whine - and him say I know - so I asked him the REALLY? thing and he came back with the explaination - and when I got tired of venting and got it ALL out of my system? I started working on core issues. When we got done and I got done and therapist felt we had enough skills to help our own selves and he said he felt I no longer needed therapy (OMG was that a shock) I felt like - YEAH - I'm healed.....and still today I find situations where I think - I should call him and set an appointment. to talk about this because I'm just not sure. And I think it's a good safety net to have, and I've done years of therapy also - but my brain can only concentrate on so many areas of me at a time - so it's bound to happen that I need a refresher now and then so that when I question my decisions and choices - I know I'm not making the same mistakes again that landed me in therapy in the first place. ......well it was either that or a 9 year tequila bender. :knockedout:- I like my liver so I went to therapy. [/QUOTE]
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