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<blockquote data-quote="LoveMyDuke" data-source="post: 313155"><p>Marguerite--wow, thanks. Your entire response holds some incredibly insightful thoughts. by the way, how I love the Machiavelli reference! I love literature, in particular from the Renaissance era. </p><p> </p><p>As for the fights, it is both: volume AND content. This kid screams so loud you can hear it a block away with windows closed, from a well-insulated home. If it was age-appropriate, I would react differently, but it's not. This seems to be just screaming for the sake of screaming. I think it stems from zero frustration tolerance, being told "no," lack of respect for authority figures, and a desire to control everything around him. And why not? He's been allowed to live this way for almost 12 years.</p><p> </p><p>It's also the content that gets to me--the swearing, the defiance, the disrespect, the circumstances that led up to it (circumstances Dave should have foreseen would be trouble). </p><p> </p><p>I currently spend all my time in my study...with the ceiling fan on, another portable fan running, and a free white noise Web site on high. It blocks out most noise from the rest of the house, assuming they are downstairs (which they are 99% of the time, planted in front of a TV or computer). I may just add a good pair of earplugs into the mix and see how the whole combination works together. </p><p> </p><p>Your comment about other people not thinking they need help really hit home. That is exactly what Dave is--someone who sees absolutely no fault in his own actions. Everyone else is wrong; never him. He has his moments of acknowledgment, but never follows through. Never. </p><p> </p><p>I am not even sleeping in the same room with him anymore. It sort of sucks sleeping on couch, but it is what it is. I'm just trying to stay away from them as best I can. There's a lot I need to sort out and do...but for the immediate future (tonight), I have a paper to write!</p><p> </p><p>The comments about sociopath vs. Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) were really interesting. I did not know most of this. I'm not diagnosing him with anything, the Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) speculation is just based on some Web sites I read. All I know is that Dave and his son are definitely not "right" and getting them to see that is like proving the sky is blue to someone born blind. Can't do it. </p><p> </p><p>So anyway, I have school work to do...lots of it. I got very little done over the weekend. On top of all this madness I work full-time, attend school full-time and try to get some triathlon training in, even though it's the "off season" now. It's good, though--better busy than idle.</p><p> </p><p>Wiped Out--I work in Madison! I've lived in the vicinity for 20 years. Know anyone looking to rent an affordable house to one stressed-out woman and her 3 pets? lol Kinda kidding...but kinda not!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LoveMyDuke, post: 313155"] Marguerite--wow, thanks. Your entire response holds some incredibly insightful thoughts. by the way, how I love the Machiavelli reference! I love literature, in particular from the Renaissance era. As for the fights, it is both: volume AND content. This kid screams so loud you can hear it a block away with windows closed, from a well-insulated home. If it was age-appropriate, I would react differently, but it's not. This seems to be just screaming for the sake of screaming. I think it stems from zero frustration tolerance, being told "no," lack of respect for authority figures, and a desire to control everything around him. And why not? He's been allowed to live this way for almost 12 years. It's also the content that gets to me--the swearing, the defiance, the disrespect, the circumstances that led up to it (circumstances Dave should have foreseen would be trouble). I currently spend all my time in my study...with the ceiling fan on, another portable fan running, and a free white noise Web site on high. It blocks out most noise from the rest of the house, assuming they are downstairs (which they are 99% of the time, planted in front of a TV or computer). I may just add a good pair of earplugs into the mix and see how the whole combination works together. Your comment about other people not thinking they need help really hit home. That is exactly what Dave is--someone who sees absolutely no fault in his own actions. Everyone else is wrong; never him. He has his moments of acknowledgment, but never follows through. Never. I am not even sleeping in the same room with him anymore. It sort of sucks sleeping on couch, but it is what it is. I'm just trying to stay away from them as best I can. There's a lot I need to sort out and do...but for the immediate future (tonight), I have a paper to write! The comments about sociopath vs. Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) were really interesting. I did not know most of this. I'm not diagnosing him with anything, the Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) speculation is just based on some Web sites I read. All I know is that Dave and his son are definitely not "right" and getting them to see that is like proving the sky is blue to someone born blind. Can't do it. So anyway, I have school work to do...lots of it. I got very little done over the weekend. On top of all this madness I work full-time, attend school full-time and try to get some triathlon training in, even though it's the "off season" now. It's good, though--better busy than idle. Wiped Out--I work in Madison! I've lived in the vicinity for 20 years. Know anyone looking to rent an affordable house to one stressed-out woman and her 3 pets? lol Kinda kidding...but kinda not! [/QUOTE]
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