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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 284526" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Susie*</p><p> </p><p>You know, I was just having this discussion with someone about their family of the 50's/60's/70's & parents not too long ago. The Father was overbearing and the Mother was a cow-tow to his every whim. If the Father got mad the Mother felt like she also had to be mad to get "approval" from the Father. It's not really approval - it's survival. Your Father must be a difficult person to live with. </p><p> </p><p>I have no idea to this day why my Father HATED gifts. He didn't mind giving them and he and my Mom were very gracious and spoiling of me - but when it came time to give a gift back? Ack...He didn't NEED, WANT, WISH FOR - anything. I thought that was crazy - everyone loves to get gifts right? Wrong. Not my Pop- NO WAY it made him almost grumpy to hand him a gift. So we'd get him things that he needed and just leave them around - or put them in his drawer. </p><p> </p><p>I'm not sure if it was growing up dirt poor, or during the Great Depression, or scrimping and saving for so long it just seemed frivilous that someone didn't save their money like he did. Like I said - I will never know. I've asked Mom - she has no clue. But then again - my Mother to this day will wash reynolds wrap aluminum foil and dry it - and save it and reuse it. Despite the fact that I have told her countless times - aluminum is one of the resources we will never run out of in 100 lifetimes. Doesn't matter - </p><p> </p><p>In your situation especially with that practical 4 year old joke he's still peeved about - I'd pull dear old Dad off to the side and have a come to Jesus meeting about it. Your 4orty WHAT...and still get grief from something that many years ago? YEah - I'd be telling your Dad to either get over it -or say goodbye and tell him how you really feel. </p><p> </p><p>The bullying needs to stop - and I can't think of anyone better than a warrior Mom to stand up to your own Dad. I'd also make sure he knew this conversation was JUST for his ears.....</p><p> </p><p>I'm sorry - hon. Hugs</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 284526, member: 4964"] Susie* You know, I was just having this discussion with someone about their family of the 50's/60's/70's & parents not too long ago. The Father was overbearing and the Mother was a cow-tow to his every whim. If the Father got mad the Mother felt like she also had to be mad to get "approval" from the Father. It's not really approval - it's survival. Your Father must be a difficult person to live with. I have no idea to this day why my Father HATED gifts. He didn't mind giving them and he and my Mom were very gracious and spoiling of me - but when it came time to give a gift back? Ack...He didn't NEED, WANT, WISH FOR - anything. I thought that was crazy - everyone loves to get gifts right? Wrong. Not my Pop- NO WAY it made him almost grumpy to hand him a gift. So we'd get him things that he needed and just leave them around - or put them in his drawer. I'm not sure if it was growing up dirt poor, or during the Great Depression, or scrimping and saving for so long it just seemed frivilous that someone didn't save their money like he did. Like I said - I will never know. I've asked Mom - she has no clue. But then again - my Mother to this day will wash reynolds wrap aluminum foil and dry it - and save it and reuse it. Despite the fact that I have told her countless times - aluminum is one of the resources we will never run out of in 100 lifetimes. Doesn't matter - In your situation especially with that practical 4 year old joke he's still peeved about - I'd pull dear old Dad off to the side and have a come to Jesus meeting about it. Your 4orty WHAT...and still get grief from something that many years ago? YEah - I'd be telling your Dad to either get over it -or say goodbye and tell him how you really feel. The bullying needs to stop - and I can't think of anyone better than a warrior Mom to stand up to your own Dad. I'd also make sure he knew this conversation was JUST for his ears..... I'm sorry - hon. Hugs [/QUOTE]
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