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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 405677" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Step, I think easy child already knows this and resents it. She knows that she has to not upset difficult child, but seems to me to be pushing buttons deliberately, to use this as leverage. "Give me what I want now (attention) or I will scream loud enough to upset difficult child." That's the problem. And easy child feels entitled to express her hurt, feels more entitled than anyone else in the house. That's why I suggested what I did - I've used the "take a number and wait" routine on my other kids before, when they began acting like only THEIR lives were being negatively impacted.</p><p></p><p>I snapped difficult child 1 out of a suicidal funk one time by telling him why I also at times was suicidal; I said that I had to make a decision to not kill myself, so I could raise my family. I said that if anyone had the right to commit suicide first, it was me. So wait in line, boyo. I get to go first. it shocked him but also stopped him catastrophising in a negative spiral.</p><p></p><p></p><p>DDD, you said, </p><p></p><p>A SHACK? </p><p></p><p>I can tell you, if I woke husband at 4 am, it wouldn't be conversation he was interested in... definitely shack.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 405677, member: 1991"] Step, I think easy child already knows this and resents it. She knows that she has to not upset difficult child, but seems to me to be pushing buttons deliberately, to use this as leverage. "Give me what I want now (attention) or I will scream loud enough to upset difficult child." That's the problem. And easy child feels entitled to express her hurt, feels more entitled than anyone else in the house. That's why I suggested what I did - I've used the "take a number and wait" routine on my other kids before, when they began acting like only THEIR lives were being negatively impacted. I snapped difficult child 1 out of a suicidal funk one time by telling him why I also at times was suicidal; I said that I had to make a decision to not kill myself, so I could raise my family. I said that if anyone had the right to commit suicide first, it was me. So wait in line, boyo. I get to go first. it shocked him but also stopped him catastrophising in a negative spiral. DDD, you said, A SHACK? I can tell you, if I woke husband at 4 am, it wouldn't be conversation he was interested in... definitely shack. Marg [/QUOTE]
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