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<blockquote data-quote="LittleDudesMom" data-source="post: 377109" data-attributes="member: 805"><p>k,</p><p></p><p>I totally agree with Susie. You are going way off here. Leave difficult child where he is. Let him pay the consequences for HIS actions. Surely there might have been some merging of your issues in parenting choices, but your son was not "damaged" because you had/have PTSD. You are grasping at straws to find a way to help difficult child. It's beyond that now. You need to help yourself now.</p><p></p><p>Go to any treatment offered you, but stop delving too deeply into this information on your own. You have the type of personality that will grasp and over think. At this juncture, you need to focus on where the dogs are going, clearing out the rest of your house, continuing to look for a job, and finding new housing. Your best bet, in my opinion, is to go to a Kroger, Martins, CVS, Target, etc., and apply for a cashier's job. With college back in school, there has been an increased need in the area for these kind of jobs. It's money and something to keep you afloat while you gather your life together. </p><p></p><p>You will be amazed how much better you will feel about yourself and how little time you have to over think difficult child's issues when you are employed. There is no shame in working these types of jobs. Holding out for something in your field is ok the first 6 months of so of unemployment - there comes a time when you take a job to have a job. You can continue to look for a position in your field while working somewhere else. At least you will have money for gas, food, etc., in the meantime. So, take a deep breath and use today to put out some minimum wage applications. Some income is better than no income.</p><p></p><p>Let difficult child do what he needs to do on his own right now. It's time for you. Stop trying to find the answers FOR him and focus on moving forward for you.</p><p></p><p>And I say all this without trying to offend, just what I believe is in your best interest.</p><p></p><p>Sharon</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LittleDudesMom, post: 377109, member: 805"] k, I totally agree with Susie. You are going way off here. Leave difficult child where he is. Let him pay the consequences for HIS actions. Surely there might have been some merging of your issues in parenting choices, but your son was not "damaged" because you had/have PTSD. You are grasping at straws to find a way to help difficult child. It's beyond that now. You need to help yourself now. Go to any treatment offered you, but stop delving too deeply into this information on your own. You have the type of personality that will grasp and over think. At this juncture, you need to focus on where the dogs are going, clearing out the rest of your house, continuing to look for a job, and finding new housing. Your best bet, in my opinion, is to go to a Kroger, Martins, CVS, Target, etc., and apply for a cashier's job. With college back in school, there has been an increased need in the area for these kind of jobs. It's money and something to keep you afloat while you gather your life together. You will be amazed how much better you will feel about yourself and how little time you have to over think difficult child's issues when you are employed. There is no shame in working these types of jobs. Holding out for something in your field is ok the first 6 months of so of unemployment - there comes a time when you take a job to have a job. You can continue to look for a position in your field while working somewhere else. At least you will have money for gas, food, etc., in the meantime. So, take a deep breath and use today to put out some minimum wage applications. Some income is better than no income. Let difficult child do what he needs to do on his own right now. It's time for you. Stop trying to find the answers FOR him and focus on moving forward for you. And I say all this without trying to offend, just what I believe is in your best interest. Sharon [/QUOTE]
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