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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 377160" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>That thought has started crossing my mind, too- along with whether or not his father has an un-diagnosis'd PD that difficult child might have possibly inherited, but I'm not positive how much of PDs is in the genes and how much might be learned behavior.</p><p></p><p>After sleeping on it all, I'm thinking my issues probably contributed but there were other contributors, too, and I'll just work on what I can, as was planned anyway, and some "pieces" of it might be discussed with difficult child as the right time comes about. Not details of what happened, but things like making sure he doesn't take it personally if I'm being withdrawn for a while or something.</p><p></p><p>I haven't turned down any "treatment" offered or any job. I'm not sure how this got misinterpreted but I am applying for any jobs I think I have a chance of getting, just because that includes any level of position in my own profession doesn't mean it has been exclusively that. But a min wage job would not keep me afloat financially without proceeding as heading toward a shelter anyway. I am pursuing that on one hand while still trying to find a job that would pay me enough to live in an apt. at the same time. I understand that some don't get that because it seems so much easier to believe if someone is unemployed a long period of time, it's because they are being too picky. That's not always the case though.</p><p></p><p>VA has me listed as PTSD and major depression. I didn't know that until my last visit there. ( I don't think any MH evluator doubted that I had PTSD in the past- my concern was whether or not they had this listed as a current problem too. The last dr I saw acted like this was a no brainer and got it straightened out, I think.) Supposedly I'm on the waiting list for a PTSD therapist and now, an outpatient crisis stabilization therapist to help me untila PTSD therapist is available for another patient. I didn't turn down either of those. In the mean time, I can go in and talk to the first therapist I saw there who I got because she was available when I was in desparate need to get a referral to get on a waiting list for their work program. I got the referral and am now on that waiting list, too. I have no desire to see this therapist further because she makes me want to pull both my and her hair out. LOL! I do have phone numbers I can call if I get desparate- VA's hotline numbers for suicidal thoughts, PTSD hotline, and affter hours nurse who will talk to you about anything for a bit and put in for an emergency appointment with someone. The problem is, I'm being told no one is currently available except this first therapist. The dr can get past that but that requires seeing a dr for an appointment, and I'm working on that. </p><p></p><p>I need to follow-up with them. When I went for a mammo, it turned out they had me listed for a gyn exam and that dr helped push for me to get on the MH waiting lists I mentioned above. They were supposed to schedule my mammo and send me an appointment letter saying when it would be. I was going to talk to a dr at that time about this pushing further MH appts but I still haven't gotten my appointment letter for the mammo. Generally, it is more feasible (and they recommend) keeping a list of "issues" then going there one day and addressing as much as you can while there. Since it ends up taking the majority of the day while you're there, albeit more seems to get accomplished that way, I haven't gone in a couple of weeks so I could deal with some other things. I thought my appointment letter for the mammo would come in during this time but it hasn't so I'll probably be making a trip there next week.</p><p></p><p>The first therapist hasn't been able to keep any facts straight, is obviously very inexperienced but thinks she can help any issue. This makes her just knowledgable enough to be dangerous to me. The last time I saw her, I just ask (begged) if she could just let me talk and get some things out- this was the week difficult child was released early, did all he did, was arrested again, and Plan A went thru Plan B then onto Plan C and I was feeling like an emotional bomb. She told me no- "I shouldn't be thinking that way". Obviously she doesn't get PTSD as well as she thinks she does. Invasive thoughts are a symptom- if "you shouldn't be thinking that way" solved the problem we wouldn't need tdocs, in my humble opinion. So I can't see that there is anything she is treating me for and if she's not even willing to let me talk out some of this, but is just there writing facts down incorrectly, why bother?</p><p></p><p>Going back to the original question though, about ptsd effecting our children- it was mentioned that they are starting to loopk into if a child "learns" ptsd reactions from living with a parent with ptsd- like the startle reflex and so forth. One psychiatrist - the one that led difficult child's MDE- said that difficult child was reacting to his learning about his father and my possible breast cancer (at that time it was a possiblity but later turned out not to be cancer), as traumatic for him. I can't help but think some tendency to have ptsd reactions were passed down. But still, just as that psychiatrist said, and she did say exactly this- the problem is finding a good therapist who can and will help a child with this.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 377160, member: 3699"] That thought has started crossing my mind, too- along with whether or not his father has an un-diagnosis'd PD that difficult child might have possibly inherited, but I'm not positive how much of PDs is in the genes and how much might be learned behavior. After sleeping on it all, I'm thinking my issues probably contributed but there were other contributors, too, and I'll just work on what I can, as was planned anyway, and some "pieces" of it might be discussed with difficult child as the right time comes about. Not details of what happened, but things like making sure he doesn't take it personally if I'm being withdrawn for a while or something. I haven't turned down any "treatment" offered or any job. I'm not sure how this got misinterpreted but I am applying for any jobs I think I have a chance of getting, just because that includes any level of position in my own profession doesn't mean it has been exclusively that. But a min wage job would not keep me afloat financially without proceeding as heading toward a shelter anyway. I am pursuing that on one hand while still trying to find a job that would pay me enough to live in an apt. at the same time. I understand that some don't get that because it seems so much easier to believe if someone is unemployed a long period of time, it's because they are being too picky. That's not always the case though. VA has me listed as PTSD and major depression. I didn't know that until my last visit there. ( I don't think any MH evluator doubted that I had PTSD in the past- my concern was whether or not they had this listed as a current problem too. The last dr I saw acted like this was a no brainer and got it straightened out, I think.) Supposedly I'm on the waiting list for a PTSD therapist and now, an outpatient crisis stabilization therapist to help me untila PTSD therapist is available for another patient. I didn't turn down either of those. In the mean time, I can go in and talk to the first therapist I saw there who I got because she was available when I was in desparate need to get a referral to get on a waiting list for their work program. I got the referral and am now on that waiting list, too. I have no desire to see this therapist further because she makes me want to pull both my and her hair out. LOL! I do have phone numbers I can call if I get desparate- VA's hotline numbers for suicidal thoughts, PTSD hotline, and affter hours nurse who will talk to you about anything for a bit and put in for an emergency appointment with someone. The problem is, I'm being told no one is currently available except this first therapist. The dr can get past that but that requires seeing a dr for an appointment, and I'm working on that. I need to follow-up with them. When I went for a mammo, it turned out they had me listed for a gyn exam and that dr helped push for me to get on the MH waiting lists I mentioned above. They were supposed to schedule my mammo and send me an appointment letter saying when it would be. I was going to talk to a dr at that time about this pushing further MH appts but I still haven't gotten my appointment letter for the mammo. Generally, it is more feasible (and they recommend) keeping a list of "issues" then going there one day and addressing as much as you can while there. Since it ends up taking the majority of the day while you're there, albeit more seems to get accomplished that way, I haven't gone in a couple of weeks so I could deal with some other things. I thought my appointment letter for the mammo would come in during this time but it hasn't so I'll probably be making a trip there next week. The first therapist hasn't been able to keep any facts straight, is obviously very inexperienced but thinks she can help any issue. This makes her just knowledgable enough to be dangerous to me. The last time I saw her, I just ask (begged) if she could just let me talk and get some things out- this was the week difficult child was released early, did all he did, was arrested again, and Plan A went thru Plan B then onto Plan C and I was feeling like an emotional bomb. She told me no- "I shouldn't be thinking that way". Obviously she doesn't get PTSD as well as she thinks she does. Invasive thoughts are a symptom- if "you shouldn't be thinking that way" solved the problem we wouldn't need tdocs, in my humble opinion. So I can't see that there is anything she is treating me for and if she's not even willing to let me talk out some of this, but is just there writing facts down incorrectly, why bother? Going back to the original question though, about ptsd effecting our children- it was mentioned that they are starting to loopk into if a child "learns" ptsd reactions from living with a parent with ptsd- like the startle reflex and so forth. One psychiatrist - the one that led difficult child's MDE- said that difficult child was reacting to his learning about his father and my possible breast cancer (at that time it was a possiblity but later turned out not to be cancer), as traumatic for him. I can't help but think some tendency to have ptsd reactions were passed down. But still, just as that psychiatrist said, and she did say exactly this- the problem is finding a good therapist who can and will help a child with this. [/QUOTE]
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