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<blockquote data-quote="SunnyFlorida" data-source="post: 6214" data-attributes="member: 696"><p>Grace, it was a couple of years ago when I was at a NAMI meeting that I came to the realization that there were only three ways out of this addiction/mental health monster. difficult child 1 was either going to get clean and get better, end up in jail, or die. Once I said that to myself it was like such a relief. I won't like it if either of the latter two come to fruition, but I am at peace with it. There just are no other options available.</p><p></p><p>It was then that I realized, I had a husband who loved me, a career that I needed to keep on with, and another difficult child who also needed me. I could not expend the amount of energy I was expending on only one person.</p><p></p><p>For years I tried to get my mother in law to go to AA. My brother in law is an alcoholic but also used quite heavily when younger. She loves AA. She is so much stronger now. She has learned so many coping skills and feels in control. You too can feel this Grace, you just need to find a group that you feel comfortable with.</p><p></p><p>Please don't judge your sisters and brother in law too harshly. I'm sure many of the treatment centers use the same philosophy and if it works for them...there has to be something to it. I'm sure your extended family also feels sadness that they are helpless in "curing" difficult child.</p><p></p><p>If your difficult child is working and maintaining civility to you, that's great. But if it is at the expense of your other child, is that truly what you want?</p><p></p><p>We all have to do things that feel right to us. We all know our difficult child's better than anyone else also. This board supports your choice and also offers you different suggestions.</p><p></p><p>(((sunny hugs))) Grace.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SunnyFlorida, post: 6214, member: 696"] Grace, it was a couple of years ago when I was at a NAMI meeting that I came to the realization that there were only three ways out of this addiction/mental health monster. difficult child 1 was either going to get clean and get better, end up in jail, or die. Once I said that to myself it was like such a relief. I won't like it if either of the latter two come to fruition, but I am at peace with it. There just are no other options available. It was then that I realized, I had a husband who loved me, a career that I needed to keep on with, and another difficult child who also needed me. I could not expend the amount of energy I was expending on only one person. For years I tried to get my mother in law to go to AA. My brother in law is an alcoholic but also used quite heavily when younger. She loves AA. She is so much stronger now. She has learned so many coping skills and feels in control. You too can feel this Grace, you just need to find a group that you feel comfortable with. Please don't judge your sisters and brother in law too harshly. I'm sure many of the treatment centers use the same philosophy and if it works for them...there has to be something to it. I'm sure your extended family also feels sadness that they are helpless in "curing" difficult child. If your difficult child is working and maintaining civility to you, that's great. But if it is at the expense of your other child, is that truly what you want? We all have to do things that feel right to us. We all know our difficult child's better than anyone else also. This board supports your choice and also offers you different suggestions. (((sunny hugs))) Grace. [/QUOTE]
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