Janebrain, glad that something in this tangle helped you. Sometimes I feel like I go round and round, but that is what we are here for, hoping that something we share will help someone else in one way or another.
DDD... Yup I like the hug too. They are few and far between so when I get them I like them alot. I feel like I cant mother him in alot of ways so when the oppurtunity comes up that I can do something like throwing a bagel in the toaster for him so when he gets out of the shower its ready, then I will do it. This is one of the things I meant about my family telling me I shouldnt do, I am babying him they say, well ya know what, I want to do it. There may come a time when I wont be able to do it.
I also LOVE to fold his clothes, I cant say I love washing them but I love folding them.
Grace