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<blockquote data-quote="therese005us" data-source="post: 292984" data-attributes="member: 7416"><p>hi Marg, and everyone that has responded. Thanks so much for your support and care - it really does help.</p><p>Well, this morning when he came up for a drink, I'd already checked the situation regarding the cow/horse water. So, when he went to the tap for a drink, I said, 'sorry, there's no water available to you, until the cows have water, 8 for the bath and 4 for the grey trough' when he asked if he could have breakfast first, I said no. </p><p>when he came back up, I reminded him he was to leave the full containers next to the bath too; and refused to allow that to wait either.</p><p> </p><p>as for his diagnoses, well, when he was discharged from the Mental Health hosptial in T...... last year, it says 'schizophreniform disorder'; psychotic illness precipitated by non compliance with medication and marijuana abuse.</p><p> </p><p>It was recommended that he maintain regular contact with a psychiatrist - I arranged an appointment with him and he dictated a report in my presence to our GP recommending he link with the community Mental Health Services. The report was a good one, but unfortunately, it never reached our GP and when we queried it, it was lost! The second one that they dictated was rubbish! and no where near as accurate. </p><p>I was pleased about the recommendation to refer to CMHS because previously the GP had recommended this, plus counselling, and DS had refused. So, nothing has ever been done about this. He just keeps going to the GP for his needle each fortnight. I think I will follow this through again; I realy feel he would benefit from regular counselling.</p><p> </p><p> </p><p> </p><p>The further recommendations for crisis strategies made me cross too:</p><p>Avoid alcohol and psychoactive substances as the will adversely affect your mental health and the efficacy of the medication - we've all tried to tell him this, but I think he does have a drinking problem - 6 OP rums in a few hours is a clear indication of this. And sometimes it's more.</p><p>Keep yourself busy doing useful activities - okay maybe the cow/water is good for this;</p><p>Avoid sitting about doing nothing - he's best at that, and how do you make a 19yo do things?</p><p>Use deep breathing techniques</p><p>Listen to music - I think that heavy metal stuff is bad for him;</p><p>Watch TV - he does lots of that!</p><p>Do some exercise - doesn't happen he's allergic to it</p><p>Play on your playstation - he's 19!! but he does that too</p><p>Avoid making difficult or important decisions while in a crisis</p><p> </p><p>I am going to look out the earlier diagnoses and let you know next time.</p><p> </p><p>I hope that this period will pass soon, as he's not easy to live with when he's like this. It's even more stressful than usual. </p><p> </p><p>I thought I'd have a chat to the GP, initially he was on 50mg at the hospital, with good results and the maintenance dose was dropped to 37.5 mg (resperidone consta)</p><p> </p><p>Could be, he's a little jealous of the fact we have two new permanents in the house, though Cherub has been here so often this year, she's been permanent in some sense.</p><p> </p><p>Now we have GS (german student) as well and he's been a little displaced as far as getting attention????</p><p> </p><p>Anyway, keep sending me some advice, I really need it.</p><p>Thanks</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="therese005us, post: 292984, member: 7416"] hi Marg, and everyone that has responded. Thanks so much for your support and care - it really does help. Well, this morning when he came up for a drink, I'd already checked the situation regarding the cow/horse water. So, when he went to the tap for a drink, I said, 'sorry, there's no water available to you, until the cows have water, 8 for the bath and 4 for the grey trough' when he asked if he could have breakfast first, I said no. when he came back up, I reminded him he was to leave the full containers next to the bath too; and refused to allow that to wait either. as for his diagnoses, well, when he was discharged from the Mental Health hosptial in T...... last year, it says 'schizophreniform disorder'; psychotic illness precipitated by non compliance with medication and marijuana abuse. It was recommended that he maintain regular contact with a psychiatrist - I arranged an appointment with him and he dictated a report in my presence to our GP recommending he link with the community Mental Health Services. The report was a good one, but unfortunately, it never reached our GP and when we queried it, it was lost! The second one that they dictated was rubbish! and no where near as accurate. I was pleased about the recommendation to refer to CMHS because previously the GP had recommended this, plus counselling, and DS had refused. So, nothing has ever been done about this. He just keeps going to the GP for his needle each fortnight. I think I will follow this through again; I realy feel he would benefit from regular counselling. The further recommendations for crisis strategies made me cross too: Avoid alcohol and psychoactive substances as the will adversely affect your mental health and the efficacy of the medication - we've all tried to tell him this, but I think he does have a drinking problem - 6 OP rums in a few hours is a clear indication of this. And sometimes it's more. Keep yourself busy doing useful activities - okay maybe the cow/water is good for this; Avoid sitting about doing nothing - he's best at that, and how do you make a 19yo do things? Use deep breathing techniques Listen to music - I think that heavy metal stuff is bad for him; Watch TV - he does lots of that! Do some exercise - doesn't happen he's allergic to it Play on your playstation - he's 19!! but he does that too Avoid making difficult or important decisions while in a crisis I am going to look out the earlier diagnoses and let you know next time. I hope that this period will pass soon, as he's not easy to live with when he's like this. It's even more stressful than usual. I thought I'd have a chat to the GP, initially he was on 50mg at the hospital, with good results and the maintenance dose was dropped to 37.5 mg (resperidone consta) Could be, he's a little jealous of the fact we have two new permanents in the house, though Cherub has been here so often this year, she's been permanent in some sense. Now we have GS (german student) as well and he's been a little displaced as far as getting attention???? Anyway, keep sending me some advice, I really need it. Thanks [/QUOTE]
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