Thank you all so much for your suggestions and support. Boy do I need it! Ha!
After seeing my daughter a few times in about 3 weeks she's been gone, we just went almost 4 days no contact. She texted me today and we kept it short and sweet.
I was feeling pretty good. Than I read her FB that showed her getting her belly pierced. The piercing itself, I don't care about. It's the way I found out.
Granted, she doesn't need my permission to make these choices but it hurt and I weakly traced her.
Me: so now I gave to find our from FB about your piercings? Wow, would have been nice to let me know.
her: I was just going to let you know.
Me: I don't care about the piercing. I was just surprised to read about it. You don't have to ask for my permission. I guess I need to get use to the fact that our relationship will be different now. You seem to want your distance.
Her: I'm sorry I don't know what else to say.
Me: are you happier with us not bring as close?
Her: I don't know
Me: Why have you pushed me away? Was I that horrible?
Her: I don't know
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I could kick my dumb ass for doing this!!! I was Exactly what we talk about on here to NOT be. It's only been a few weeks but apparently I am a slow learner.
Why did I keep pushing??
I fear I set us back even further.
This sucks.
Me 42 husband 40
DD1 18 DD2 9
My oldest moved out a week after turning 18. I'm really struggling.