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<blockquote data-quote="Mattsmom277" data-source="post: 472854" data-attributes="member: 4264"><p>He sure is hiding in the sand on this. I'm sorry. The comment about not telling the truth to one of you rings true. He won't tell her it can't and won't happen but won't tell you it is his choice and deal with that choice. Given that the clock</p><p>Is ticking quickly and that you've mentioned she's getting rid of things in preparation etc tells me that it really is up to you to make a stand. You can tell mother in law that this is not happening and be honest why or tell your husband your plans with a deadline if he doesn't deal with this. He really isn't respecting your marriage and the counseling is being</p><p>Dodged by him. </p><p></p><p>I think I might mail a certified letter to mother in law that you love her etc but for xyz reasons she can't and won't be moving in with you and husband. After it was sent I think I'd arrange to stay a night at a friends or hotel and leave husband a to the pOint letter. I love you, I waited for you to do this but you seemed</p><p>Unable. I wrote xyz to your mother. I'll be home tomorrow. Your marriage comes</p><p>First and I'd he goes ahead to not back this decision then he can expect that you will see the marriage is no longer what he wants and you will make your own plans and realize he is telling you he no longer wants a marriage. It's harsh in some ways but a far cry from the lack of support to you and the marriage he has been showing. Honestly? It sounds toe like he can't tell his mother and is pushing for someone else to be the bad guy and bearer of the news to him. Bad position to out you in if that's the case. If he</p><p>Decides to defy you and rebuff your letter and move on with plans with her then sadly you've made your choice for what you need. If heaves ahead with her not moving in after you letters you can then work on seeing if he is then ready to own his own decision and make amends to you for putting you through all of this. </p><p></p><p>Again I'm sorry this is going on. I do think standing your grown and pushing this to a decision is sadly firmly in your hands. Can pushing it to a head be any worse than this ongoing strain on you and your marriage?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mattsmom277, post: 472854, member: 4264"] He sure is hiding in the sand on this. I'm sorry. The comment about not telling the truth to one of you rings true. He won't tell her it can't and won't happen but won't tell you it is his choice and deal with that choice. Given that the clock Is ticking quickly and that you've mentioned she's getting rid of things in preparation etc tells me that it really is up to you to make a stand. You can tell mother in law that this is not happening and be honest why or tell your husband your plans with a deadline if he doesn't deal with this. He really isn't respecting your marriage and the counseling is being Dodged by him. I think I might mail a certified letter to mother in law that you love her etc but for xyz reasons she can't and won't be moving in with you and husband. After it was sent I think I'd arrange to stay a night at a friends or hotel and leave husband a to the pOint letter. I love you, I waited for you to do this but you seemed Unable. I wrote xyz to your mother. I'll be home tomorrow. Your marriage comes First and I'd he goes ahead to not back this decision then he can expect that you will see the marriage is no longer what he wants and you will make your own plans and realize he is telling you he no longer wants a marriage. It's harsh in some ways but a far cry from the lack of support to you and the marriage he has been showing. Honestly? It sounds toe like he can't tell his mother and is pushing for someone else to be the bad guy and bearer of the news to him. Bad position to out you in if that's the case. If he Decides to defy you and rebuff your letter and move on with plans with her then sadly you've made your choice for what you need. If heaves ahead with her not moving in after you letters you can then work on seeing if he is then ready to own his own decision and make amends to you for putting you through all of this. Again I'm sorry this is going on. I do think standing your grown and pushing this to a decision is sadly firmly in your hands. Can pushing it to a head be any worse than this ongoing strain on you and your marriage? [/QUOTE]
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