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<blockquote data-quote="busywend" data-source="post: 105387" data-attributes="member: 391"><p>This is not the issue tonight. The issue is he did not look for the remote good enough. Does that really sound like an act that deserves punishment? You found the remote. You could just have said with a smirk and maybe even a little tickle, "I guess you did not look hard enough." I know, it is tough to have this reaction with a child that tests your every last nerve. But, if he were a easy child that would have been your reaction probably. </p><p></p><p>Had that scenario played out, you would have had a lovely evening watching a movie together. Or maybe not, maybe he would have given you trouble about going to bed. Anything can happen with a difficult child! LOL!</p><p></p><p>But, you still would have had the movie. A nice memory for both of you.</p><p></p><p>Should you put the tree up tonight? No. Do it together tomorrow while you discuss that we are all human, all make mistakes, all get angry, all overreact, etc. but we can also recognize our mistakes and apologize.</p><p></p><p>Now you bring up the fact that he sabotaged the TV and how that is a mistake he made. It is not his to disable. It is not a proper reaction. He should apologize. </p><p></p><p>It is important that you not beat yourself up or sound too sappy while having this conversation. Keep your self respect and confidence very obvious during this situation.</p><p></p><p>Now, I have a question of why you do not eat with your son? I, for one, would give my left hand to have dinner with my difficult child every night. She refuses to eat with me. You should cherish those moments each night. I am a single mom, too. I know just how hectic things can get. But, we go to bed later than we like. Just one more sacrifice we make for our children.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="busywend, post: 105387, member: 391"] This is not the issue tonight. The issue is he did not look for the remote good enough. Does that really sound like an act that deserves punishment? You found the remote. You could just have said with a smirk and maybe even a little tickle, "I guess you did not look hard enough." I know, it is tough to have this reaction with a child that tests your every last nerve. But, if he were a easy child that would have been your reaction probably. Had that scenario played out, you would have had a lovely evening watching a movie together. Or maybe not, maybe he would have given you trouble about going to bed. Anything can happen with a difficult child! LOL! But, you still would have had the movie. A nice memory for both of you. Should you put the tree up tonight? No. Do it together tomorrow while you discuss that we are all human, all make mistakes, all get angry, all overreact, etc. but we can also recognize our mistakes and apologize. Now you bring up the fact that he sabotaged the TV and how that is a mistake he made. It is not his to disable. It is not a proper reaction. He should apologize. It is important that you not beat yourself up or sound too sappy while having this conversation. Keep your self respect and confidence very obvious during this situation. Now, I have a question of why you do not eat with your son? I, for one, would give my left hand to have dinner with my difficult child every night. She refuses to eat with me. You should cherish those moments each night. I am a single mom, too. I know just how hectic things can get. But, we go to bed later than we like. Just one more sacrifice we make for our children. [/QUOTE]
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