Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
I love my Life - I am the boyfiend
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="flutterbee" data-source="post: 122262"><p>Honestly, as the boyfriend I think your opinions should only be heard by Dara. Your role is as her boyfriend/supporter/lover/friend and not as difficult child's parent. Trying to walk into a teeangers life and parent is just going to create conflict and animosity. She will always see you as the adversary. Then anytime you hand down discipline or what have you and Mom backs you up, she will see it as mom taking your side and being against her.</p><p></p><p>I think you should get to know difficult child in a non-parenting way. Show interest in her life, friends, interests. Ask about her day, the movie she watched, the music she listens to. Expect to be treated with respect and dignity and treat her the same way. </p><p></p><p>I'm not saying this should be an open invitation for difficult child to walk all over you. Just that Mom should lay down the law.</p><p></p><p>That's my two cents as a single mom and as a child who had a step-parent come in at age 11 and try to parent without any real parenting skills. At the age of 34, we are just getting to the point where we have any kind of communication. If my mom weren't in the picture, any contact with my step-father would fall off quickly. We never developed any kind of relationship at all.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="flutterbee, post: 122262"] Honestly, as the boyfriend I think your opinions should only be heard by Dara. Your role is as her boyfriend/supporter/lover/friend and not as difficult child's parent. Trying to walk into a teeangers life and parent is just going to create conflict and animosity. She will always see you as the adversary. Then anytime you hand down discipline or what have you and Mom backs you up, she will see it as mom taking your side and being against her. I think you should get to know difficult child in a non-parenting way. Show interest in her life, friends, interests. Ask about her day, the movie she watched, the music she listens to. Expect to be treated with respect and dignity and treat her the same way. I'm not saying this should be an open invitation for difficult child to walk all over you. Just that Mom should lay down the law. That's my two cents as a single mom and as a child who had a step-parent come in at age 11 and try to parent without any real parenting skills. At the age of 34, we are just getting to the point where we have any kind of communication. If my mom weren't in the picture, any contact with my step-father would fall off quickly. We never developed any kind of relationship at all. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
I love my Life - I am the boyfiend
Top