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<blockquote data-quote="timer lady" data-source="post: 128704" data-attributes="member: 393"><p><span style="color: Black"><strong>Sharon,</strong></span></p><p><span style="color: Black"><strong></strong></span></p><p><span style="color: Black"><strong>I agree with Fran. It no longer mattered that I could tolerate once a week physical aggression from wm - that was fine. I remember telling psychiatrist that once a week was tolerable.</strong></span></p><p><span style="color: Black"><strong></strong></span></p><p><span style="color: Black"><strong>psychiatrist corrected me quickly; an adult could & would be charged after just one time. This needed to be stopped & stopped now. He too recommended Residential Treatment Center (RTC) - a psychiatric hospital would discharge wm too quickly.</strong></span></p><p><span style="color: Black"><strong></strong></span></p><p><span style="color: Black"><strong>And saying that with wm they didn't discharge wm from psychiatric hospital (6 weeks) until an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) bed was found. I took 3 days off work & I had 3 phones plus email going at the same time looking, begging for a bed for my son. I worked my way up the state DHS & community mental health ladders. I contacted every adoption survival community I could find. And in the end something turned up for wm. </strong></span></p><p><span style="color: Black"><strong></strong></span></p><p><span style="color: Black"><strong>I wasn't the only person working on this - our mental health case manager was putting in the hours along with our psychiatrist. psychiatrist was calling with our permission, the judge who finalized our adoption - hoping for a nudge in that direction.</strong></span></p><p><span style="color: Black"><strong></strong></span></p><p><span style="color: Black"><strong>Once is too much - difficult child must learn new ways to cope with whatever emotion he is taking out on you. </strong></span></p><p><span style="color: Black"><strong></strong></span></p><p><span style="color: Black"><strong>The family deserves better - it's unhealthy for every one of you to live like this. And it took me a long time to come around to that way of thinking. It took me a while to redefine the situation; to become family of different addresses. Didn't matter the addresses - we were still family. That is the thought that kept me going. Whether I saw wm everyday or just once a month that thought kept me going.</strong></span></p><p><span style="color: Black"><strong></strong></span></p><p><span style="color: Black"><strong>To answer your initial question & kt knows the answer to this; no violence is tolerated here. None! </strong></span><span style="color: Black"><strong>The last time she teetered over that line she teetered herself into Residential Treatment Center (RTC). </strong></span><span style="color: Black"><strong>Verbal abuse is not tolerated - an immediate apology is asked for & most times received. Consequences are doled out if an apology isn't received - consequences that make an impact for kt.</strong></span></p><p><span style="color: Black"><strong></strong></span></p><p><span style="color: Black"><strong>I hope your day goes well & that difficult child is cooperative today. </strong></span></p><p><span style="color: Black"><strong></strong></span></p><p><span style="color: Black"><strong></strong></span></p><p><span style="color: Black"><strong></strong></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="timer lady, post: 128704, member: 393"] [COLOR=Black][B]Sharon, I agree with Fran. It no longer mattered that I could tolerate once a week physical aggression from wm - that was fine. I remember telling psychiatrist that once a week was tolerable. psychiatrist corrected me quickly; an adult could & would be charged after just one time. This needed to be stopped & stopped now. He too recommended Residential Treatment Center (RTC) - a psychiatric hospital would discharge wm too quickly. And saying that with wm they didn't discharge wm from psychiatric hospital (6 weeks) until an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) bed was found. I took 3 days off work & I had 3 phones plus email going at the same time looking, begging for a bed for my son. I worked my way up the state DHS & community mental health ladders. I contacted every adoption survival community I could find. And in the end something turned up for wm. I wasn't the only person working on this - our mental health case manager was putting in the hours along with our psychiatrist. psychiatrist was calling with our permission, the judge who finalized our adoption - hoping for a nudge in that direction. Once is too much - difficult child must learn new ways to cope with whatever emotion he is taking out on you. The family deserves better - it's unhealthy for every one of you to live like this. And it took me a long time to come around to that way of thinking. It took me a while to redefine the situation; to become family of different addresses. Didn't matter the addresses - we were still family. That is the thought that kept me going. Whether I saw wm everyday or just once a month that thought kept me going. To answer your initial question & kt knows the answer to this; no violence is tolerated here. None! [/B][/COLOR][COLOR=Black][B]The last time she teetered over that line she teetered herself into Residential Treatment Center (RTC). [/B][/COLOR][COLOR=Black][B]Verbal abuse is not tolerated - an immediate apology is asked for & most times received. Consequences are doled out if an apology isn't received - consequences that make an impact for kt. I hope your day goes well & that difficult child is cooperative today. [/B][/COLOR] [/QUOTE]
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