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<blockquote data-quote="trinityroyal" data-source="post: 342500" data-attributes="member: 3907"><p>3S, I am so sorry that you're being tested like this. And I wholeheartedly agree with all the others that you should go, hold your head high, and be so gracious that they will choke on it.</p><p></p><p>The British "stiff upper lip" seems to fit in perfectly with the Southern Steel Magnolia in the kill-them-with-kindness battalion. Here are a few choice phrases from my play book:</p><p></p><p>If met with bragging: <span style="color: Blue">"How <em>NICE </em>for you."</span></p><p>If met with insult: <span style="color: blue">"Oh dear."</span> or <span style="color: blue">"Let's have no unpleasantness. This is a joyful occasion."</span> or <span style="color: blue">"I'm sure the children don't want to dredge <em>THAT </em>up. It'll make them look bad on <em>THEIR </em>day."</span></p><p>If met with sarcastic comments: <span style="color: blue">Misinterpret them at face value, as a compliment wherever possible. React as though the comment was sincere, not sarcastic.</span></p><p></p><p>I don't know if these horrible people tend to grill you with questions that put you on the spot. If they do, just remember, you never owe them an answer. They key is to say something that sounds like an answer, but gives no information whatsoever. Answer the question you want to answer, rather than the one they asked. </p><p></p><p>A non-related example, someone recently asked me what my husband weighs (because of his significant weight loss, I guess). I replied, "He's fit as a fiddle. Looks great, doesn't he?" I answered something, and the person felt like he got an answer, but I didn't give away any information. </p><p></p><p>Whatever you do, do NOT let them see that they've caused you pain and tears. Tormenting someone is just no fun at all when the tormented person doesn't play along with the script. Don't play along.</p><p></p><p>3S, I'm sending you an extra set of Warrior Mom armour, polished until it's gleaming, with matching shoes for the wedding. I'm also sending along a whole basketful of twin-baby snuggles. Keep them in your pockets for when you need them.</p><p></p><p>Many hugs,</p><p>Trinity</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trinityroyal, post: 342500, member: 3907"] 3S, I am so sorry that you're being tested like this. And I wholeheartedly agree with all the others that you should go, hold your head high, and be so gracious that they will choke on it. The British "stiff upper lip" seems to fit in perfectly with the Southern Steel Magnolia in the kill-them-with-kindness battalion. Here are a few choice phrases from my play book: If met with bragging: [COLOR="Blue"]"How [I]NICE [/I]for you."[/COLOR] If met with insult: [COLOR="blue"]"Oh dear."[/COLOR] or [COLOR="blue"]"Let's have no unpleasantness. This is a joyful occasion."[/COLOR] or [COLOR="blue"]"I'm sure the children don't want to dredge [I]THAT [/I]up. It'll make them look bad on [I]THEIR [/I]day."[/COLOR] If met with sarcastic comments: [COLOR="blue"]Misinterpret them at face value, as a compliment wherever possible. React as though the comment was sincere, not sarcastic.[/COLOR] I don't know if these horrible people tend to grill you with questions that put you on the spot. If they do, just remember, you never owe them an answer. They key is to say something that sounds like an answer, but gives no information whatsoever. Answer the question you want to answer, rather than the one they asked. A non-related example, someone recently asked me what my husband weighs (because of his significant weight loss, I guess). I replied, "He's fit as a fiddle. Looks great, doesn't he?" I answered something, and the person felt like he got an answer, but I didn't give away any information. Whatever you do, do NOT let them see that they've caused you pain and tears. Tormenting someone is just no fun at all when the tormented person doesn't play along with the script. Don't play along. 3S, I'm sending you an extra set of Warrior Mom armour, polished until it's gleaming, with matching shoes for the wedding. I'm also sending along a whole basketful of twin-baby snuggles. Keep them in your pockets for when you need them. Many hugs, Trinity [/QUOTE]
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