{{{{{sunny hugs}}}}}}}} :smile:
HH, it takes a lonnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnng time to detach. Don't be too hard on yourself.
Also, difficult child could have talked to you if he wanted. He could have just said Hi mom. He didn't.
He's not ready to change, he's content upon living his life by his rules.
Our difficult child's ultimately teach us how to detach...albeit....slowly.