I think that was a perfect response, HH. We are their mothers. It is right that we love them, It is right that we tell them the truth, too. I love you. I don't like to see you in this position. I wanted more for you. I worry about your future. Don't take drugs.
All those things are good things.
We can say whatever we want to, to our sons (or daughters).
There comes a time when whether they listen or not is no longer the issue.
It is important, for us, that we say what we think.
And we do love them.
I agree that it is hard for us, and hard on our marriages.
Barbara