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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 200817" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>In hindsight, I would have let natural consequences attach to his actions. Does he admire any counselor or teacher at his school? If so, I'd let him slide and say not a word to him, but ask this counselor or teacher to talk to him about the great potential for a happy life he is letting slide. Honestly, with M, I think that instead of telling him how smart and capable he was, I might have done better if I had told him "It's too bad you're not very intelligent. Otherwise you could go to college. But, since you're kind of dumb, those things are out of reach for you." He <em>always</em> had to prove me wrong, and anything I wanted was the opposite of what he wanted.</p><p></p><p>It's early in the year. Unless you are in a school district that actually holds students back, I would academically let him fail and ask for the assistance that the school can give. I wouldn't tolerate attitude or expect the school to tolerate it either. But in hindsight I wish I would have let M follow through on his decisions to not do schoolwork in elementary and middle school instead of fighting him. It would have given him a chance to develop his own reason for doing the work instead of fighting my reasons all of the time.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 200817, member: 99"] In hindsight, I would have let natural consequences attach to his actions. Does he admire any counselor or teacher at his school? If so, I'd let him slide and say not a word to him, but ask this counselor or teacher to talk to him about the great potential for a happy life he is letting slide. Honestly, with M, I think that instead of telling him how smart and capable he was, I might have done better if I had told him "It's too bad you're not very intelligent. Otherwise you could go to college. But, since you're kind of dumb, those things are out of reach for you." He [i]always[/i] had to prove me wrong, and anything I wanted was the opposite of what he wanted. It's early in the year. Unless you are in a school district that actually holds students back, I would academically let him fail and ask for the assistance that the school can give. I wouldn't tolerate attitude or expect the school to tolerate it either. But in hindsight I wish I would have let M follow through on his decisions to not do schoolwork in elementary and middle school instead of fighting him. It would have given him a chance to develop his own reason for doing the work instead of fighting my reasons all of the time. [/QUOTE]
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