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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 143029" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Heather,</p><p> </p><p>It sounds like therapy is very much needed. While the degree of modesty, and the comfort level in discussing sex, varies from person to person, what your daughter is experiencing is WAY past what is typical.</p><p> </p><p>Please find a counsellor who is very qualified in dealing with sexual abuse issues. At the same time it would probably be extremely helpful if the therapist is experienced in body dysmorphic disorder (eating disorders). </p><p> </p><p>It sounds very very much as though she was molested or otherwise sexually abused. Without help she CANNOT heal and have a safe and happy life. She won't feel safe, will start even more drastic behaviors to abuse herself. I think this is where she is headed, esp since prior to age 4 she was not this way. The self-hatred, etc... are signs that it is a big problem. But who thinks that this could be the reason? We are all pretty careful with our kids, and as Marg said, who thinks of it being another CHILD who may have done this?? (3 little boys in J's kindergarten class would conspire to get the teacher and aide very busy with fights or whatever. Then they would grab a girl and drag her into the coatroom to molest. These were kindergarteners and it was very very premeditated. NO ONE thinks of this happening! )</p><p> </p><p>She likely may not remember what happened in the easily reachable part of her memory. I know for some people it takes hypnosis - be very careful with the person who hypnotizes her if you go this route. Also be sure to stay in the room or have a video and audio tape of what happens. For some women this is the only way to find out what is going on and to cope with it.</p><p> </p><p>I am so sorry. It is terrifying to think your baby was abused this way. It must hurt your mommy heart so much to think about this.</p><p> </p><p>Hugs,</p><p> </p><p>Susie</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 143029, member: 1233"] Heather, It sounds like therapy is very much needed. While the degree of modesty, and the comfort level in discussing sex, varies from person to person, what your daughter is experiencing is WAY past what is typical. Please find a counsellor who is very qualified in dealing with sexual abuse issues. At the same time it would probably be extremely helpful if the therapist is experienced in body dysmorphic disorder (eating disorders). It sounds very very much as though she was molested or otherwise sexually abused. Without help she CANNOT heal and have a safe and happy life. She won't feel safe, will start even more drastic behaviors to abuse herself. I think this is where she is headed, esp since prior to age 4 she was not this way. The self-hatred, etc... are signs that it is a big problem. But who thinks that this could be the reason? We are all pretty careful with our kids, and as Marg said, who thinks of it being another CHILD who may have done this?? (3 little boys in J's kindergarten class would conspire to get the teacher and aide very busy with fights or whatever. Then they would grab a girl and drag her into the coatroom to molest. These were kindergarteners and it was very very premeditated. NO ONE thinks of this happening! ) She likely may not remember what happened in the easily reachable part of her memory. I know for some people it takes hypnosis - be very careful with the person who hypnotizes her if you go this route. Also be sure to stay in the room or have a video and audio tape of what happens. For some women this is the only way to find out what is going on and to cope with it. I am so sorry. It is terrifying to think your baby was abused this way. It must hurt your mommy heart so much to think about this. Hugs, Susie [/QUOTE]
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