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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 398045" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>Most, almost all, people leave a copy of their will with the attorney who draws it up. There are two things I learned from my personal experience. First of all there may be multiple wills unbeknownst to the primary attorney. People change their minds over time or update. Secondly (and this is still true, at least in our State) personal property distrubution is not included in the body of the will. The attorney suggests that you type or write up a sheet showing personal items with the name of the recipient. This informally done paper is to be dated and signed and preferably notarized or witnessed. The <strong>big</strong> problem isthat older people often "redo" their lists. My Mom had 3!! One of my siblings had a copy of the first one and literally took Mom's diamond ring set when she left the State after the services. You can imagine how popular I was when</p><p>I found three lists and the last dated one did not give those rings to that sibling. Yikes! I had to have the attorney write a letter to each of the siblings including a copy of the most recent personal list and suggesting that all property be returned</p><p>to me for distribution. The middle list left her home to a different sibling. That too was not in the valid list and boy did that cause issues for years.</p><p> </p><p>Of course the personal property list (if not left with attorney which it usually is not) often times "disappears" and then all kinds of H results. Thankfully that did not happen in our family but I know for a fact it happened in another family that was comprised of mostly nice people.</p><p> </p><p>So...don't assume anything. Just make sure (no matter how young you are) that you get everything written down so your wishes can be legally followed. Hugs. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 398045, member: 35"] Most, almost all, people leave a copy of their will with the attorney who draws it up. There are two things I learned from my personal experience. First of all there may be multiple wills unbeknownst to the primary attorney. People change their minds over time or update. Secondly (and this is still true, at least in our State) personal property distrubution is not included in the body of the will. The attorney suggests that you type or write up a sheet showing personal items with the name of the recipient. This informally done paper is to be dated and signed and preferably notarized or witnessed. The [B]big[/B] problem isthat older people often "redo" their lists. My Mom had 3!! One of my siblings had a copy of the first one and literally took Mom's diamond ring set when she left the State after the services. You can imagine how popular I was when I found three lists and the last dated one did not give those rings to that sibling. Yikes! I had to have the attorney write a letter to each of the siblings including a copy of the most recent personal list and suggesting that all property be returned to me for distribution. The middle list left her home to a different sibling. That too was not in the valid list and boy did that cause issues for years. Of course the personal property list (if not left with attorney which it usually is not) often times "disappears" and then all kinds of H results. Thankfully that did not happen in our family but I know for a fact it happened in another family that was comprised of mostly nice people. So...don't assume anything. Just make sure (no matter how young you are) that you get everything written down so your wishes can be legally followed. Hugs. DDD [/QUOTE]
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