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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 711669" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Lawyers are not paychologists and their clients are usually not kids. CPS will probably get involved and may insist on talking to the daughter and its really about the mental health of the kids. All my kids were spoken to...the mental health of the kids came first. No kid can be trusted to keep quiet anyway.</p><p></p><p>The poster can do what she wants. I dont agree with telling a child victim of sexual abuse to not talk about it. They feel ashamed as it is. We did not suffer consequences at all. The child did because he was six years older so he was convicted of child abuse. There is no six year gap of age in this story. These two kids were both molested and both need to feel that its ok to talk about it...its can cause big issues otherwise. A Judge would pdobably order a Psychologist anyway and they are mandated reporters.</p><p></p><p>The child we had was 13. The courts take sexual abuse very seriously, even for minors and this will get looked into unless you make in my opinion the worst decision for the kids which is to hide it. Sexual behavior is a red light to judges and CPS. It is never good or easy. Both my kids were ordered to be seen by a sexual abuse physician who was kind but very thorough. We were lauded for cooperating. It is aleays possibly worse to try to hide sexual abuse. CPS is a government agency that Judges really validate, scarily even when CPS is wrong. As a foster and adoptive parent for the state...we learned about their power. Even a lawyer told us he was not sure he could do anything to help.</p><p></p><p>Again this is 100% your decision. I was most concerned about the mental health of my kids. This is a very tough issue. The foster boy (we actually had just adopted him weeks before we found out what he was doing) ended up in a sort of kid lock up for young sexual offenders and we had nothing to do with it. The county pressed charges, not us. But we found out late that he was a serial offender. We did not take him back in our home. He was too dangerous. Posters kid doesnt sound like him...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 711669, member: 1550"] Lawyers are not paychologists and their clients are usually not kids. CPS will probably get involved and may insist on talking to the daughter and its really about the mental health of the kids. All my kids were spoken to...the mental health of the kids came first. No kid can be trusted to keep quiet anyway. The poster can do what she wants. I dont agree with telling a child victim of sexual abuse to not talk about it. They feel ashamed as it is. We did not suffer consequences at all. The child did because he was six years older so he was convicted of child abuse. There is no six year gap of age in this story. These two kids were both molested and both need to feel that its ok to talk about it...its can cause big issues otherwise. A Judge would pdobably order a Psychologist anyway and they are mandated reporters. The child we had was 13. The courts take sexual abuse very seriously, even for minors and this will get looked into unless you make in my opinion the worst decision for the kids which is to hide it. Sexual behavior is a red light to judges and CPS. It is never good or easy. Both my kids were ordered to be seen by a sexual abuse physician who was kind but very thorough. We were lauded for cooperating. It is aleays possibly worse to try to hide sexual abuse. CPS is a government agency that Judges really validate, scarily even when CPS is wrong. As a foster and adoptive parent for the state...we learned about their power. Even a lawyer told us he was not sure he could do anything to help. Again this is 100% your decision. I was most concerned about the mental health of my kids. This is a very tough issue. The foster boy (we actually had just adopted him weeks before we found out what he was doing) ended up in a sort of kid lock up for young sexual offenders and we had nothing to do with it. The county pressed charges, not us. But we found out late that he was a serial offender. We did not take him back in our home. He was too dangerous. Posters kid doesnt sound like him... [/QUOTE]
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