These are good ideas from SWOT and dstc. Can you see that these are boundaries? Things you decide ahead of time. You already know what will happen, so decide now what you will do and not do and then stick to it no matter what.
When my son was pounding on the door having left the hospital AMA I said no you cannot come in. I had already decided.
Perhaps one package of chicken not three. Don't tell him anymore what he needs to do and not do. You have already said it, 1000 times. It hasn't helped. He knows. Realizing that keeps it simple and short.
Write down what you will say. Print it out and put it where you can grab it when he calls. I did this. It works. It will calm you and give you a blueprint to follow. It is a plan and so you are not being jerked around like a puppet. We get ptsd on this board I firmly believe that. We have to have tools to combat it.
This will help you I believe. You will be better able to function between contacts. I also applaud getting away physically. That really helps too.
