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<blockquote data-quote="rlsnights" data-source="post: 413975" data-attributes="member: 7948"><p>Your son sounds a lot like mine when he was young. Sweet and rageful all in one package.</p><p></p><p>A neuropsychologist is definitely where you need to go. The prenatal stuff could be a factor here and a lot of time kids "grow" into their disabilities. That means their limits don't seem to be a problem until they reach the developmental stage where they're supposed to grow beyond them - and they don't. </p><p></p><p>It may be that is what you are seeing in the rages and other difficult behaviors.</p><p></p><p>I suggest that you start keeping a diary or chart of his behaviors. You can do a brief daily diary with a narrative. Or you can do more of a chart. Here's a list of the things I tracked with my difficult child 2:</p><p></p><p>Moods - high and low for that day - with younger kids changes in energy levels may go with changes in mood; use a consistent number scale that makes sense to you, 1 is "normal" 10 is extreme.</p><p>Irritability - does everything rub him the wrong way?</p><p>Sleep - how many hours, naps during the day, quality of sleep if that is something you notice</p><p>Aggressiveness toward others</p><p>Rages - how long they last, if there's things that seem to have triggered the rage</p><p></p><p>Your story sounds similar to mine =</p><p>As an infant my son cried constantly, had either diarrhea or constipation all his life and was still having nighttime diarrhea when he was 22 months old. He was allergic to every disposable diaper on the market, broke out if he wore anything with metal (no snaps), only slept for 30 minutes at a time for the first 4 months or so and then only when he was in physical contact with a human body. I cried when he stopped taking 1 nap a day when he was 15 months old but he didn't sleep through the night until he was 7. He had asthma by age 2, chronic ear infections from 8 months, can't stand seams or tags or things that are even slightly scratchy and avoids many different foods because of their texture or smell. He had surgery 4 times by age 7, was moderately deaf in his right ear due to a rare congenital growth that destroyed the bones of his middle ear, had topical and inhaled allergies and at age 10 was diagnosed with Crohn's Disease. He walked at 9 months and was talking in 8 word sentences at 15 months. He also has migraines, language processing problems, and a bipolar diagnosis with mild thought disorders. At this point we think his biggest hurdle is actually his inability to take another person's perspective. I am not saying your son has these same diagnoses or will have them. Rather that you are right to take your son's problems seriously and try to figure things out now.</p><p></p><p>Truly, if I had known then what I know now, I would have done anything in my power to get my son accurately and thoroughly assessed when he was young. Interventions are always more effective with a younger child than an older one. And your son may also be scared and confused by his own behavior.</p><p></p><p>For my difficult child the two areas that no one assessed when he was young that have turned out to be really important were language processing/pragmatic language (assessed by a speech pathologist) and sensory integration (Occupational therapist with special training). A neuropsychologist may recommended these assessments also be done in addition to things he/she will be doing.</p><p></p><p>I would speak with your son's allergist about his behavior problems and ask if there's any chance his allergies or another related condition might be part of the cause. I'm specifically thinking of celiac's which can have CNS effects. I doubt this is the case but it's worth asking the question, especially when you have a kid who has lots of physical sensitivities.</p><p></p><p>It's wonderful that he is often so warm, caring and happy. </p><p></p><p>Hugs,</p><p></p><p>Patricia</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="rlsnights, post: 413975, member: 7948"] Your son sounds a lot like mine when he was young. Sweet and rageful all in one package. A neuropsychologist is definitely where you need to go. The prenatal stuff could be a factor here and a lot of time kids "grow" into their disabilities. That means their limits don't seem to be a problem until they reach the developmental stage where they're supposed to grow beyond them - and they don't. It may be that is what you are seeing in the rages and other difficult behaviors. I suggest that you start keeping a diary or chart of his behaviors. You can do a brief daily diary with a narrative. Or you can do more of a chart. Here's a list of the things I tracked with my difficult child 2: Moods - high and low for that day - with younger kids changes in energy levels may go with changes in mood; use a consistent number scale that makes sense to you, 1 is "normal" 10 is extreme. Irritability - does everything rub him the wrong way? Sleep - how many hours, naps during the day, quality of sleep if that is something you notice Aggressiveness toward others Rages - how long they last, if there's things that seem to have triggered the rage Your story sounds similar to mine = As an infant my son cried constantly, had either diarrhea or constipation all his life and was still having nighttime diarrhea when he was 22 months old. He was allergic to every disposable diaper on the market, broke out if he wore anything with metal (no snaps), only slept for 30 minutes at a time for the first 4 months or so and then only when he was in physical contact with a human body. I cried when he stopped taking 1 nap a day when he was 15 months old but he didn't sleep through the night until he was 7. He had asthma by age 2, chronic ear infections from 8 months, can't stand seams or tags or things that are even slightly scratchy and avoids many different foods because of their texture or smell. He had surgery 4 times by age 7, was moderately deaf in his right ear due to a rare congenital growth that destroyed the bones of his middle ear, had topical and inhaled allergies and at age 10 was diagnosed with Crohn's Disease. He walked at 9 months and was talking in 8 word sentences at 15 months. He also has migraines, language processing problems, and a bipolar diagnosis with mild thought disorders. At this point we think his biggest hurdle is actually his inability to take another person's perspective. I am not saying your son has these same diagnoses or will have them. Rather that you are right to take your son's problems seriously and try to figure things out now. Truly, if I had known then what I know now, I would have done anything in my power to get my son accurately and thoroughly assessed when he was young. Interventions are always more effective with a younger child than an older one. And your son may also be scared and confused by his own behavior. For my difficult child the two areas that no one assessed when he was young that have turned out to be really important were language processing/pragmatic language (assessed by a speech pathologist) and sensory integration (Occupational therapist with special training). A neuropsychologist may recommended these assessments also be done in addition to things he/she will be doing. I would speak with your son's allergist about his behavior problems and ask if there's any chance his allergies or another related condition might be part of the cause. I'm specifically thinking of celiac's which can have CNS effects. I doubt this is the case but it's worth asking the question, especially when you have a kid who has lots of physical sensitivities. It's wonderful that he is often so warm, caring and happy. Hugs, Patricia [/QUOTE]
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