Which Im sure you all hear a lot. Im just now admitting that we have a problem and beginning to tackle it. Im scared, and we have no resources near us. No pediatricians, no hospitals, no therapists. We have an appointment tomorrow with our NP to get started (hopefully) on figuring out what is going on with my 8 year old. History: We have four kids, three boys, one girl. They are 10, 8, 7, and 5. I SAH with them, as a result my husband works a lot and works far from home so he is only home on the weekends. My other three kids seem to be pretty typical but my 8 year old has been difficult since he was born. Very colicky, severe skin problems, now is suffering from fairly well controlled asthma, and food allergies (specifically, peanut but his number has declined and we have another appointment the 28th to rechecki), eczema etc. He is *supposed* to be on advair, but that's it. He wont even do the advair. He lies and says he did, and he doesn't. He lies about everything, really. Recently he quit using soap in the shower, and refuses to brush his teeth. Tip of the iceburg. Nothing is ever his fault, he's very violent towards his siblings, specifically the smaller two. A lot of tantrums, throwing around the word hate, he questions everything you tell him to do, ignores, places blame on everyone else...and if he can't place blame then he lies and didn't do whatever went wrong. He picks, is mean to my daughter specifically, calls lots of names, bad words, hits, cheats, he can't stand her being anywhere near him most of the time. If she sings it drives him totally crazy. He can't stand it. If he doesn't get the chair he wants at the table he freaks out. If I tell him no about something, he hounds you for hours begging for it (lately it was for me to set his alarm clock, long story) and then cries and cries and refuses to partake in life. Our lives are severely disrupted by him every single day. He literally can't stop name calling and hitting. Literally. And pouting. Within 2 minutes of him being around people they are crying. The thing is, he is an angel in school. His teacher says he's very neutral to her, she said she could scream at him or tell him he won the lottery and the reaction would be the same. He gets this glazed look on his face when he's in trouble like he just isn't with you at all when you talk to him. We do all kinds of special things with him, and in turn he just disrespects me and craps all over me. He's very touchy, is always touching someone and up in thier space. BUt if anyone dares get near him he will hit them or hurt them in some way. He lies and hides his homework telling me he did it, then at bedtime has a massive 2 hour breakdown that I didn't remind him enough and that I didn't help him and he hasn't done it. It's always my fault. I dont know what to do or where to turn.