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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 608325" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>ODD is kind of an unhelpful diagnosis. He does have a lot of autistic symptoms and both autism and ADHD include executive function dficits. Often kids with parents who have psychiatric issues, like bipolar and schizophrenia, instead are born with forms of autism. I know this is a fact. I do not know why. Nobody does. But they seem to be somehow related. Your son does not sound schizophrenic to this layman. He is not out of touch with reality at all. He knows he has problems and that they are difficult ones to change. Obviously, I'm not a doctor, but...I wouldn't be looking there right now.</p><p></p><p>This boy is NOT being hard on you on purpose. The poor kid can't get a correct diagnosis or treatment. Have you ever had a genetics test to see if he has a genetics disorder? It is a simple blood test. My own son had the test. Because of his birth and weight maybe he has a hidden problem t hat has never been uncovered. I don't think ADHD begins to cover his issues and you may never know everything that is wrong, but he is one of our "differently wired" children who may need help all his life and certainly does NOT deserve to be treated as "bad" by anyone. The medical issues make me think that maybe they are all connected. Poor kid. I agree with your son...he probably won't change, but only because he can't. (If you live in Wisconsin, and want our kids to connect, PM me! You can do it on this forum!) <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p>I would demand a genetics test just to be safe. Many times medical problems actually are the cause of behavioral and learning problems. He will possibly need ongoing adult care and the school, which usually initiates this, is not doing so. Have you ever signed him up for the Special Olympics? My son met his first friends there and he is really making progress socially and in every way now that he has services that help him mingle and advance. He has autism, but he was adopted and born with drugs in his system so that contributed to his issues, but they DID get better once he got the help he needed. He has gained great confidence in himself and does not have any behavioral problems now, although he did when he was little. He also had open heart surgery as an infant...so there goes the medical/behavioral question mark. </p><p></p><p>You have a ton of sympathy from me and so does your boy. I wish you lived nearby. My son would be happy to mentor him and he is now in a good place. In your son's case, he is being let down by those who have the power to help him. I am very puzzled that nobody of yet has taken a blood test to test for possible genetic issues, but it's not too late. Our differently wired kids mature later, often much later, and there is still the rest of his life and yours. YOU need a break too. You need to be able to take good care of yourself and your stress level in spite of having a difficult child.</p><p></p><p>I am really sorry you are going through this. It is not your fault at all and I don't believe it is your boy's fault either. Big hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 608325, member: 1550"] ODD is kind of an unhelpful diagnosis. He does have a lot of autistic symptoms and both autism and ADHD include executive function dficits. Often kids with parents who have psychiatric issues, like bipolar and schizophrenia, instead are born with forms of autism. I know this is a fact. I do not know why. Nobody does. But they seem to be somehow related. Your son does not sound schizophrenic to this layman. He is not out of touch with reality at all. He knows he has problems and that they are difficult ones to change. Obviously, I'm not a doctor, but...I wouldn't be looking there right now. This boy is NOT being hard on you on purpose. The poor kid can't get a correct diagnosis or treatment. Have you ever had a genetics test to see if he has a genetics disorder? It is a simple blood test. My own son had the test. Because of his birth and weight maybe he has a hidden problem t hat has never been uncovered. I don't think ADHD begins to cover his issues and you may never know everything that is wrong, but he is one of our "differently wired" children who may need help all his life and certainly does NOT deserve to be treated as "bad" by anyone. The medical issues make me think that maybe they are all connected. Poor kid. I agree with your son...he probably won't change, but only because he can't. (If you live in Wisconsin, and want our kids to connect, PM me! You can do it on this forum!) :) I would demand a genetics test just to be safe. Many times medical problems actually are the cause of behavioral and learning problems. He will possibly need ongoing adult care and the school, which usually initiates this, is not doing so. Have you ever signed him up for the Special Olympics? My son met his first friends there and he is really making progress socially and in every way now that he has services that help him mingle and advance. He has autism, but he was adopted and born with drugs in his system so that contributed to his issues, but they DID get better once he got the help he needed. He has gained great confidence in himself and does not have any behavioral problems now, although he did when he was little. He also had open heart surgery as an infant...so there goes the medical/behavioral question mark. You have a ton of sympathy from me and so does your boy. I wish you lived nearby. My son would be happy to mentor him and he is now in a good place. In your son's case, he is being let down by those who have the power to help him. I am very puzzled that nobody of yet has taken a blood test to test for possible genetic issues, but it's not too late. Our differently wired kids mature later, often much later, and there is still the rest of his life and yours. YOU need a break too. You need to be able to take good care of yourself and your stress level in spite of having a difficult child. I am really sorry you are going through this. It is not your fault at all and I don't believe it is your boy's fault either. Big hugs. [/QUOTE]
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