Your ex-husband left you for a "girl at work" who had posed as your friend for years?
Who would want a 'man' like that? Who would want to be a 'girl' like that?
You're focussing on material stuff, when actually you are so lucky to be shot of this person and have the freedom to live your own life. Imagine if you were still married to this sleaze, stuck with him day in, day out.
Think about this Sootired. Is she really the winner in this? I think you have to change your perception of this situation.
I have genuine pity for my ex-husband's 2nd wife. Poor cow.