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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 102713" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>As I understand the situation you are a working full-time mother with two really difficult special needs difficult child's. </p><p></p><p>You have loads of "helpful" input from people who think they have all the answers if you just make your home into a mini bootcamp. Odd how that works. </p><p></p><p>If it really worked so well then every time any of sent one of our kids off to a Residential Treatment Center (RTC) they would come back fixed. Hmmm. </p><p></p><p>Plus a home simply cannot be run that way without more people than one single mother. You would need at least 4 or 5 other people living in your home with you.</p><p></p><p>Heck, I had my husband, a full time tech for my son 8 hours a day, a case manager, therapist, etc...and he still didnt turn out fixed!</p><p></p><p>I would tell them you are one person, you will do what you can do. You appreciate all their help and input but you arent superwoman. </p><p></p><p>Take from their ideas what you think you can do and use them. If charts work well with the incentives...go for it. Some kids need to see whats coming and need the concrete reinforcement. </p><p></p><p>If the regular homebased isnt working...can it. You might actually enjoy the classes or therapy for yourself. Someplace to unload. IF...and only IF...they can provide childcare. We did the classes and therapy because it gave us a time to unwind from the stress of dealing with a very difficult difficult child. They understood us. My situation was a bit different from mustangs but my family therapy was with Corys therapist and the classes were with parents of kids just like Cory. </p><p></p><p>I never did homebased. Corys tech kept him in the school and community. he didnt come in the house. Well...a few times they did if it was really bad weather or Cory was sick and couldnt go to school but for the most part, it was school and community.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 102713, member: 1514"] As I understand the situation you are a working full-time mother with two really difficult special needs difficult child's. You have loads of "helpful" input from people who think they have all the answers if you just make your home into a mini bootcamp. Odd how that works. If it really worked so well then every time any of sent one of our kids off to a Residential Treatment Center (RTC) they would come back fixed. Hmmm. Plus a home simply cannot be run that way without more people than one single mother. You would need at least 4 or 5 other people living in your home with you. Heck, I had my husband, a full time tech for my son 8 hours a day, a case manager, therapist, etc...and he still didnt turn out fixed! I would tell them you are one person, you will do what you can do. You appreciate all their help and input but you arent superwoman. Take from their ideas what you think you can do and use them. If charts work well with the incentives...go for it. Some kids need to see whats coming and need the concrete reinforcement. If the regular homebased isnt working...can it. You might actually enjoy the classes or therapy for yourself. Someplace to unload. IF...and only IF...they can provide childcare. We did the classes and therapy because it gave us a time to unwind from the stress of dealing with a very difficult difficult child. They understood us. My situation was a bit different from mustangs but my family therapy was with Corys therapist and the classes were with parents of kids just like Cory. I never did homebased. Corys tech kept him in the school and community. he didnt come in the house. Well...a few times they did if it was really bad weather or Cory was sick and couldnt go to school but for the most part, it was school and community. [/QUOTE]
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