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<blockquote data-quote="timer lady" data-source="post: 398740" data-attributes="member: 393"><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">DF, kt's risk taking behaviors exploded shortly after husband died. She promised sex to one of wm's foster brothers if said "brother" would kill wm (wiping a tear of motherly pride as I write this) through texting. </span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">Immediately kt lost her cell phone for over a year if not longer. That is one way to protect your difficult child. </span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">Saying the above, I'm learning slowly, through exploration of Taoism & Buddhism, a way of calm & peace. In the same right I'm learning to care about me before others. That's been my problem all along (& yours I bet); putting my children, my husband first. I'm here to tell you that hasn't worked. Made things worse all around.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">It's difficult to let go of those chaotic emotions that our difficult child brings into our lives. We spend years doubting our parenting, our skills as a human being.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">"Why is it that doubt has such conviction? Why is it that conviction is so vulnerable to doubt?" This has become a mantra to me of late, when I'm in that state where I question all I've done. Every decision I made with such conviction & look back & think did I do right by the tweedles?</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">There is a way you can teach yourself to "self calm". To reach that state of knowing that you've done & will do everything to protect difficult child & not lose yourself in the process. Not lose your marriage or your sense of family. That state will be achieved.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">DF, with time, with acceptance & self care your resolution will come to be. Give yourself a break ~ it's not going to happen over night. It's a process ~ let it happen.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="timer lady, post: 398740, member: 393"] [SIZE=3][FONT=Comic Sans MS]DF, kt's risk taking behaviors exploded shortly after husband died. She promised sex to one of wm's foster brothers if said "brother" would kill wm (wiping a tear of motherly pride as I write this) through texting. Immediately kt lost her cell phone for over a year if not longer. That is one way to protect your difficult child. Saying the above, I'm learning slowly, through exploration of Taoism & Buddhism, a way of calm & peace. In the same right I'm learning to care about me before others. That's been my problem all along (& yours I bet); putting my children, my husband first. I'm here to tell you that hasn't worked. Made things worse all around. It's difficult to let go of those chaotic emotions that our difficult child brings into our lives. We spend years doubting our parenting, our skills as a human being. "Why is it that doubt has such conviction? Why is it that conviction is so vulnerable to doubt?" This has become a mantra to me of late, when I'm in that state where I question all I've done. Every decision I made with such conviction & look back & think did I do right by the tweedles? There is a way you can teach yourself to "self calm". To reach that state of knowing that you've done & will do everything to protect difficult child & not lose yourself in the process. Not lose your marriage or your sense of family. That state will be achieved. DF, with time, with acceptance & self care your resolution will come to be. Give yourself a break ~ it's not going to happen over night. It's a process ~ let it happen. [/FONT][/SIZE] [/QUOTE]
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