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<blockquote data-quote="Tiapet" data-source="post: 168304" data-attributes="member: 455"><p>I've been reading this all intently. Star I like your idea of the self respect one. If she gets it (and again we're still trying to figure that one out) maybe it will work. We've tried all the other suggestions everyone has posted and/or variations of it. The money one worked but she'd continue once money was withdrawn (aka I can control this but I'm not going to unless I get money). You can not endlessly give anyone money like that nor will we.</p><p></p><p>We have gone around cursing all day, all of us (and we don't curse as a rule either). Didn't work. She just ignored it altogether. You see ex used to curse every other word so to her it is normal. Little dude used to curse up a storm a lot for a while too but his reasoning was "my father used to and he's not here so I have to do it now" (literally those were his words to his therapist way back). Now he will only do it when he is raging with food allergy.</p><p></p><p>Working on that neuro appointment as I type!</p><p></p><p>OK came back to edit this because don't I feel like the big kahuna of DUHVILLE right now! <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /> <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /></p><p></p><p>So Ms Queen HAS already undergone the testing. Twice as a matter of fact. Once in first grade and just done again about 9 months ago. I knew it as psychological testing and thought there was something different with the NEURO in front of it. *NO WONDER* the psychiatrist talked to me the way he did. It's the same. The tests are the same. Doesn't matter who gives them. I really, really feel stupid. You ladies (well some of you will) have no idea how this makes me feel at this moment. I'm on top of this stuff and have been for years and thought I was missing something here and it appears I wasn't.</p><p></p><p>Now I am upset because I don't know where to turn. If all this testing showed what it did and we STILL have no answers where does that leave us? I mean we can't figure out if she truly understands things (in many cases, some we know she clearly does). And if she does does she care (it appears in many cases she clearly does not and THAT is very scary if you knew what they were). We tossed around attachment disorder based on some of the symptoms yet couldn't really pin down why she'd have that. Could she really have an anti social personality disorder or something like it or conduct disorder at such a young age? Something is not right here and I don't know what it is none of us do and now I don't know where else to turn with it.</p><p></p><p>Unless she is in a situation where she is the only child (such as when she stays with her grandmother) and is required to follow the rules there (basic normal rules) she doesn't do well. School is a problem no matter what academically she just can't do math, basic simple math. I'm not kidding. She can't tell time unless it's digital and even then she doesn't get what the numbers mean she only reads them. She has no concept with money no matter how hard we've tried to teach her. Yet she can do the testing and make the score she did which is below average only? </p><p></p><p>No social clues able to be taken, no understanding about anything social. False feelings or overly strong feelings/reactions that don't appear to truly be real (she can turn off most crying on a dime). She will laugh at any and everything funny or not.</p><p></p><p>Talk about anything to do with sexual or body, she's right there noticing it inappropriately. For instance a commercial for something where the lady has a skirt on and twirls. She says "you can see her underwear!" You can't see her underwear at all but why the heck is she even looking there? (this is a normal pattern for her to notice body parts in reality or what ever the situation is) Neither I nor Mz Queen ever dress provocatively or even close to it yet she like nothing more then to try to get away with wearing something that is inappropriate (like a skirt that is too short for example).</p><p></p><p>Add in all the lying, steal (food, things, no money, etc.)</p><p></p><p>UGH! This is just horrible and I could probably list so much more. I look at her and see a sweet, pretty, smiley/happy little girl that is looking for love so badly. Yet on the other side is this nasty, nasty stuff that you can't overlook and no one has any answers as the days, weeks, years are ticking by and the issues are growing. I am and have been scared for about a year now as I saw some of this progressing. More so when people weren't having answers.</p><p></p><p>I am struggling each day to protect her and protect the rest of family/outsiders at the same time. How, how do any of you who are handling similar do it?</p><p></p><p></p><p>Thanks for listening to my off target vent.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tiapet, post: 168304, member: 455"] I've been reading this all intently. Star I like your idea of the self respect one. If she gets it (and again we're still trying to figure that one out) maybe it will work. We've tried all the other suggestions everyone has posted and/or variations of it. The money one worked but she'd continue once money was withdrawn (aka I can control this but I'm not going to unless I get money). You can not endlessly give anyone money like that nor will we. We have gone around cursing all day, all of us (and we don't curse as a rule either). Didn't work. She just ignored it altogether. You see ex used to curse every other word so to her it is normal. Little dude used to curse up a storm a lot for a while too but his reasoning was "my father used to and he's not here so I have to do it now" (literally those were his words to his therapist way back). Now he will only do it when he is raging with food allergy. Working on that neuro appointment as I type! OK came back to edit this because don't I feel like the big kahuna of DUHVILLE right now! :( :( So Ms Queen HAS already undergone the testing. Twice as a matter of fact. Once in first grade and just done again about 9 months ago. I knew it as psychological testing and thought there was something different with the NEURO in front of it. *NO WONDER* the psychiatrist talked to me the way he did. It's the same. The tests are the same. Doesn't matter who gives them. I really, really feel stupid. You ladies (well some of you will) have no idea how this makes me feel at this moment. I'm on top of this stuff and have been for years and thought I was missing something here and it appears I wasn't. Now I am upset because I don't know where to turn. If all this testing showed what it did and we STILL have no answers where does that leave us? I mean we can't figure out if she truly understands things (in many cases, some we know she clearly does). And if she does does she care (it appears in many cases she clearly does not and THAT is very scary if you knew what they were). We tossed around attachment disorder based on some of the symptoms yet couldn't really pin down why she'd have that. Could she really have an anti social personality disorder or something like it or conduct disorder at such a young age? Something is not right here and I don't know what it is none of us do and now I don't know where else to turn with it. Unless she is in a situation where she is the only child (such as when she stays with her grandmother) and is required to follow the rules there (basic normal rules) she doesn't do well. School is a problem no matter what academically she just can't do math, basic simple math. I'm not kidding. She can't tell time unless it's digital and even then she doesn't get what the numbers mean she only reads them. She has no concept with money no matter how hard we've tried to teach her. Yet she can do the testing and make the score she did which is below average only? No social clues able to be taken, no understanding about anything social. False feelings or overly strong feelings/reactions that don't appear to truly be real (she can turn off most crying on a dime). She will laugh at any and everything funny or not. Talk about anything to do with sexual or body, she's right there noticing it inappropriately. For instance a commercial for something where the lady has a skirt on and twirls. She says "you can see her underwear!" You can't see her underwear at all but why the heck is she even looking there? (this is a normal pattern for her to notice body parts in reality or what ever the situation is) Neither I nor Mz Queen ever dress provocatively or even close to it yet she like nothing more then to try to get away with wearing something that is inappropriate (like a skirt that is too short for example). Add in all the lying, steal (food, things, no money, etc.) UGH! This is just horrible and I could probably list so much more. I look at her and see a sweet, pretty, smiley/happy little girl that is looking for love so badly. Yet on the other side is this nasty, nasty stuff that you can't overlook and no one has any answers as the days, weeks, years are ticking by and the issues are growing. I am and have been scared for about a year now as I saw some of this progressing. More so when people weren't having answers. I am struggling each day to protect her and protect the rest of family/outsiders at the same time. How, how do any of you who are handling similar do it? Thanks for listening to my off target vent. [/QUOTE]
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