Ms Queen has a serious language problem. Specifically cursing up a storm. Her disregard towards me and So is horrendous (of course she will curse at the other difficult child's too). It isn't like she doesn't know how and when to use the words either and boy does she freely! I have talked to therapist who has no suggestion. In old times I'm sure she'd be smacked from here to kingdom come and then some but that isn't going to happen at all. Hot sauce or soap isn't an option either (that'd warrant a call to cps for sure I'm told). It seems no matter what we do the language just doesn't stop. She is mouthy and nasty to begin with (and if you've read about Ms Emo over in PE it's like that but a younger version). This is my MOST difficult "doesn't get it/don't care" child. The one we can't figure out if she really doesn't get it or if she does, does she really care. Seems no amount of rewards or consequences works for her. We could give her a consequence 1,000 times and she still won't learn from her mistake. Likewise we could reward her 1,000 times for making the right choice but she would turn around and make the wrong one anyway because "she feels like it or I don't know why I did it". Her pscyh testing did not show an IQ deficit that would indicate she is not capable of understanding things. It was about average. But the way she acts and the things she does you would swear she has some MR or cognitive impairments. *sigh* It is terribly frustrating to us, to all of us. I just can not< NOT> tolerate the cursing anymore. I am not going to be told F you anymore, shut up B, or you B, A**hole, B**tard, jerk (said in that combination) OR told to get off my fat lazy a** because she doesn't want to get or do something an 11 yo should be able to do for herself (such as get a glass out of the cupboard to get a drink, pick up her own clothes off the floor, etc.). *BIG BIG SIGH* PLEASE anyone, have some kind of suggestion for this that isn't illegal and may work? She has pushed too far and my hands are tied to be able to do anything but this is IT! I am tired of all the abuse from the girls (yes they are kids so....) I didn't take it from ex any longer and I've had enough.