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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 749980" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p style="text-align: left"><span style="color: rgb(20, 20, 20)">Dear Jay. Thank you very much for the quotes. This make sense. </span></p> <p style="text-align: left"><span style="color: rgb(20, 20, 20)"></span></p> <p style="text-align: left"><span style="color: rgb(20, 20, 20)">It's like I attended the workshop and I didn't have to attend. By opening up to the process. By being transparent and trusting. And then, being abandoned and held as the culpable party. Not considered. And then violated. Not being held as valuable or worthwhile to protect. </span></p> <p style="text-align: left"><span style="color: rgb(20, 20, 20)"></span></p> <p style="text-align: left"><span style="color: rgb(20, 20, 20)">This in a way is the trauma. And at their hands I could have been retraumatized. Oh. I was. And had I gone, it could have been worse. But due to the loving arms of the women here, I was able to choose to NOT identify with the people who hurt me (parents, abusers, whoever) and to settle myself. I wavered, I know, I did. But you guys straightened me up. So I allowed space for the healing to happen, and I let it happen. It would never have been about what that guy could have "done" to me that would be healing. It was about my being able to put myself in the healing space. </span></p> <p style="text-align: left"><span style="color: rgb(20, 20, 20)"></span></p> <p style="text-align: left"><span style="color: rgb(20, 20, 20)">Like the other quote, above.<em> I put myself in the room.</em></span></p> <p style="text-align: left"><span style="color: rgb(20, 20, 20)"></span></p> <p style="text-align: left">All of this is reminding me of that book,<u> Gifts of Acceptance</u>, that Busy told us about. My copy came but I didn't start reading. It may be time to set up the book club thread. Thank you very much.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 749980, member: 18958"] [LEFT][COLOR=rgb(20, 20, 20)]Dear Jay. Thank you very much for the quotes. This make sense. It's like I attended the workshop and I didn't have to attend. By opening up to the process. By being transparent and trusting. And then, being abandoned and held as the culpable party. Not considered. And then violated. Not being held as valuable or worthwhile to protect. This in a way is the trauma. And at their hands I could have been retraumatized. Oh. I was. And had I gone, it could have been worse. But due to the loving arms of the women here, I was able to choose to NOT identify with the people who hurt me (parents, abusers, whoever) and to settle myself. I wavered, I know, I did. But you guys straightened me up. So I allowed space for the healing to happen, and I let it happen. It would never have been about what that guy could have "done" to me that would be healing. It was about my being able to put myself in the healing space. Like the other quote, above.[I] I put myself in the room.[/I] [/COLOR] All of this is reminding me of that book,[U] Gifts of Acceptance[/U], that Busy told us about. My copy came but I didn't start reading. It may be time to set up the book club thread. Thank you very much.[/LEFT] [/QUOTE]
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