Thank you so very much. Things have gotten so bad since 2019 - and we kept giving, hoping, tolerating his mean words and behavior. He tells me I am too sensitive, a horrible mother, a wimp for crying about the abuse my parents put on me. You are so right, it is domestic abuse. I was feeling SO HOPELESS this morning. Your message helps me - you are right, they can get clean if they want - he does not want too - "its his lifestyle." His verbal abuse is destructive and our family and our relationships have suffered. My son has Down Syndrome and is a tender loving soul.....he has seen so much trauma and still loves his brother. My husband and I have had to go to marriage counseling because I cannot detach. Thank you for your empowering reply, because I am feeling a little better. Nobody can make him change except for him - NOBODY. I need to be stronger but feel more comfortable in the weak position. I am seeing this now. I am going to Nar Anon. Is there a time you recommend? I live in the midwest and all the times confuse me. I am also not a techy and so much of life is on line. I really need support and I will learn!! Thank you so so much for sharing and for replying to me. It is in God's hands and I will be at peace with whatever happens.
