Mirabelle - You literally have written EXACTLY what has happened and how I feel. I am so grateful that you and others responded because I have felt so alone in my community. All of my son's friends have got it together and are in college or working and living on their own. As I was driving home just now from teaching my yoga class my son called for me to help him with a job application. A night stocker at Walmart. Since weed he has become nocturnal. And, I am not sure how he will make millions like he wants stocking at Walmart but it is a start. He asked me, "what if they drug test?" I of course replied, "well, you obviously cannot pass a drug test so you better find out." He also had to list his DUI on the application. All of this stuff is stuff he is going to have to face. We have told him again and again and again........but he knows everything. This is the lessons life teaches and he would not even apply if he were home. We would be arguing and as you say, he would be destroying our peace. I have no idea how he intends to GET to work cause his drivers license is revoked till 12/22. I have a sinking feeling he will ask my husband and me to pick him up and take him........another NO.........sometimes I find myself anticipating scenarios that stress me out. But, I have had to learn to be ready all the time with our unpredictable and volatile kid. I am happy he is applying.....maybe he'll ride his bike in the cold dark night???? Thank you so much for posting - this forum is life saving for me 
