Grace:
I so get what you are saying.
If I had all the money I wasted and spent on difficult child and her craziness....I'd be a millionaire. Not that I minded trying to spend money for her treatment, it isn't that.....She just seems to suck me dry financially. I wrote it all off and now only buy her what I think she needs.......The money stuff causes alot of resentment by me and I'm sure by you...
The staying in bed stuff, screaming, cursing by difficult child in the morning made me remember the same things happening with mine......your words had me reliving it.
So we live and learn. Detachment is the only answer. I'm not sure of your difficult child's exact history but if he can't do what he said he would do to live in your house.......He needs to move. I have made a vow with myself, and I know it's true, that I can never live with difficult child ever again. This is my line in the sand......it took so long for me.
I just want you to know I am so sorry you are going thru what so many "perfect parents" do not know from. We know, here.
Sending prayers and cyber hugs.
Blessings,
Melissa 
