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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 401199" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>You feel strongly about this, don't you? It wouldn't still be bothering you if it didn't. He sounds very very much like the son of husband's advisor in grad school. On the right medications he is delightful. Off of them and he is naked on a corner preaching and begging, having given his clothes to homeless people, etc... He is a regular with the shelters, cops and the psychiatric ward when he stops taking his medications. Always goes to live like Jesus did (his parents are religious but NOT the type to advertise it, Know what I mean??). </p><p> </p><p>Your daughter knows it bothers you. Have you asked her if she would forgive you for telling his parents about this? I know that M (the mom) would be horrified to hear that her son had asked to lead something for a group she worked hard to build and then stole money from a group that was to be used for the group's purpose and used it for his own means. </p><p> </p><p>I don't know these people, and they may not react well. It depends on who they are. I would let them know that you do not blame anyone, that you understand that he is unusual and doesn't always understand things, but you feel strongly that they have a right to know that he pressured a volunteer to use money her church donated to give to the chidlren but he used it to buy a ticket to fly on a different plane from the rest of the group. The person who had the $$ or her family may have already let them know, but you won't rest easy until you make sure they know.</p><p> </p><p>If nothing else, it is a sign of how much the son needs help. Just be as gentle and non-blaming as you can.</p><p> </p><p>If you don't say this to them it will weigh on you and be a burden to you for years to come. You couldn't protect the volunteers or the orphans, but you can help protect this group that does so much for them by letting those in charge know about a substantial sum of money (huge sum to the natives) being misused.</p><p> </p><p>Good Luck!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 401199, member: 1233"] You feel strongly about this, don't you? It wouldn't still be bothering you if it didn't. He sounds very very much like the son of husband's advisor in grad school. On the right medications he is delightful. Off of them and he is naked on a corner preaching and begging, having given his clothes to homeless people, etc... He is a regular with the shelters, cops and the psychiatric ward when he stops taking his medications. Always goes to live like Jesus did (his parents are religious but NOT the type to advertise it, Know what I mean??). Your daughter knows it bothers you. Have you asked her if she would forgive you for telling his parents about this? I know that M (the mom) would be horrified to hear that her son had asked to lead something for a group she worked hard to build and then stole money from a group that was to be used for the group's purpose and used it for his own means. I don't know these people, and they may not react well. It depends on who they are. I would let them know that you do not blame anyone, that you understand that he is unusual and doesn't always understand things, but you feel strongly that they have a right to know that he pressured a volunteer to use money her church donated to give to the chidlren but he used it to buy a ticket to fly on a different plane from the rest of the group. The person who had the $$ or her family may have already let them know, but you won't rest easy until you make sure they know. If nothing else, it is a sign of how much the son needs help. Just be as gentle and non-blaming as you can. If you don't say this to them it will weigh on you and be a burden to you for years to come. You couldn't protect the volunteers or the orphans, but you can help protect this group that does so much for them by letting those in charge know about a substantial sum of money (huge sum to the natives) being misused. Good Luck! [/QUOTE]
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