This has been bothering me for a long time, and I've pretty much made it my New Year's Resolution. easy child has gone to Honduras twice on trips to orphanages. The last time she went, the team leader, A, was a 24-yr-old guy whose parents started the group many yrs ago. He has led other teams and they felt he would do just fine. The previous time she went, husband went along, and there were other middle aged adults in the group. A did horribly. He did not plan a thing, including which car to drive to the airport, 3 hrs away. He switched cars 2 hrs from the airport in the opposite direction, (something about borrowing a car from a friend) which forced the team stay up all night while he drove. He fell asleep at the wheel twice and easy child woke him up and he refused to change places with-anyone else, insisting that he continue to drive. (I needed Xanax when I heard that one!!!) When they finally arrived at the airport, the team discovered that he was putting them all on one flight and he was taking a completely different flight. Oh, and he hadn't paid for it yet, so he persuaded one of the team members to give him the $1,200 she had collected from her church to give to the orphans! Once they got to Honduras, he insisted they all stay up to pray, so they could do a spiritual sleep deprivation thingy, and everyone refused. easy child said it beautifully--I am here for the orphans and being sleep deprived will not help me. If you want to get closer to God by being sleep deprived, fine, but that's not what we're all here for. We're here to help the kids and that will bring us all closer to God. He typically wanders around Chicago or some big city proselytizing to the poor, and living hand to mouth by begging, because that's what Jesus did. (Say what?) Two months ago, he fasted for a week with no supervision, no water, no vitamins, then hallucinated, and walked right into the river off the dock near his parents' house in the middle of the night. His dad zoomed into their boat and somehow found him as he went down in the pitch dark. He was hospitalized for a week (his organs shut down due to hypothermia), then stayed at home under supervision for two weeks. Now he's on the loose again. I think he's Aspie (examples, rigid thinking, won't think to carry luggage, ADHD, can't plan ahead, etc.) and possibly psychotic, but don't know what medications he's on. (easy child said he's on something but wants to keep it confidential.) So, I want to meet with-his parents to tell them that he took $1,200 from one of the team members. To me, that goes beyond irresponsiblity. It is thievery. I wasn't there. I didn't see all this. But I have met him several times, and I did have to live through my daughter practically having a nervous breakdown due to this guy's antics. I have seen her get off the phone or off of Facebook in tears because of things he's said. (No one else is ever good enough ... they don't pray enough, whatever.) I'm not sure how the parents will receive me when I tell them, but I know them well enough that they will agree to meet with-me. My stand is that they have spent too many yrs bldng up this group to have their son destroy it. I also don't want my daughter to feel that I have gone behind her back to talk to them. Help!!!