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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 446023" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>Sorry it went that way but I kinda suspected it would. I had another thought (other than the survivor's guilt etc.). mother in law if I remember correctly has Depression. Perhaps....just perhaps....she told brother in law "I can't face having all those people show up at my house." Perhaps father in law's friends and spouses are not people she is comfortable being around? My Father was very well know, very extroverted etc. while my Mother was "his wife". His funeral was the largest one I've ever been to and even though I managed his office and was well connected myself...there were scads of people that none of us knew. My Mother was intimidated (in a quiet way). IF mother in law shared that with brother in law he may have come up with a plan that would alleviate her concerns. Just a thought. </p><p></p><p>Where we live some of the smaller churches have committees that provide refreshments on site. Most of the time people go to the home and alot of the time alcohol is provided in addition to food. I guess we need to come up with a plan for our passings. I'm tending to think of a small reception away from home as our house is too small and if husband goes first I'd be a nervous wreck worrying about "entertaining" and "cleaning" instead of greiving. If I go first I absolutely know he wouldn't "worry" about the house etc. and, lol, I would not "rest in peace" knowing that people would see dog hair and dust! Interesting subject. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 446023, member: 35"] Sorry it went that way but I kinda suspected it would. I had another thought (other than the survivor's guilt etc.). mother in law if I remember correctly has Depression. Perhaps....just perhaps....she told brother in law "I can't face having all those people show up at my house." Perhaps father in law's friends and spouses are not people she is comfortable being around? My Father was very well know, very extroverted etc. while my Mother was "his wife". His funeral was the largest one I've ever been to and even though I managed his office and was well connected myself...there were scads of people that none of us knew. My Mother was intimidated (in a quiet way). IF mother in law shared that with brother in law he may have come up with a plan that would alleviate her concerns. Just a thought. Where we live some of the smaller churches have committees that provide refreshments on site. Most of the time people go to the home and alot of the time alcohol is provided in addition to food. I guess we need to come up with a plan for our passings. I'm tending to think of a small reception away from home as our house is too small and if husband goes first I'd be a nervous wreck worrying about "entertaining" and "cleaning" instead of greiving. If I go first I absolutely know he wouldn't "worry" about the house etc. and, lol, I would not "rest in peace" knowing that people would see dog hair and dust! Interesting subject. DDD [/QUOTE]
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